I recently read another Odyssey article by Macie McCallum titled "7 Things Girls Say That Are Lies." While I thought it was an interesting read, I found that it exposed some key elements of our culture, and how women treat other women. Moreover, many feel like they need to lie about how they feel to keep the peace. My question to them is, “Why?” Here are my responses to several of the points made in the article. Ladies, it’s time to get real.
1. Saying “I’m fine!” when you’re not really fine.
If a girl is going to sit, brood, and sigh, while saying, “I’m fine,” she’s hurting no one but herself. I’m not sure what fairy tale you read where men accommodated your every need, and communicated telepathically, but this is the real world. Saying, “Well he should know what’s wrong,” is the grandest form of self-sabotage. People are different, not everyone thinks exactly the same way you do, and expecting someone to read your mind is borderline insanity. If you need something, say it. If something pisses you off, say it. If you’re hungry, don’t keep saying, “I’m fine.” Beneath that thin layer of cuteness is a hangry monster that will rip a man’s face off. No one wants to watch you make a crashing-blood-sugar-level-driven scene in the Church’s chicken. Been there, done that.
2. Telling guys to “have fun” when you basically mean “screw you!”
Why shouldn’t he have fun? Oh right, you are his sun, his moon, his universe. Everything revolves around you. He can’t possibly have any fun unless you are physically present. If you have girl time, why can’t he enjoy time with the guys? Hell, I like time by myself! Go out with the guys. I’ll catch up on my shows, do a face-mask, have some wine. Me-time is glorious.
3. Asking your man questions about girls in their past as a test because you think you know what’s behind it all.
What the what? If you keep tabs on every girl he’s breathed the same air as then there are much bigger problems. Maybe you’ve been burned. It’s time to figure out why you have trust issues. If he’s giving you valid reasons, give him the deuces.
4. Saying you should hang out when you don’t mean it.
Why would anyone do this? It’s actually really messed me up in the head. If I tell someone that I want to hang out with them, I mean it. I will NEVER make the first move, because of backwards crap like this. You never know who’s being sincere anymore. I’ve been ditched, stood up, abandoned. I might just be that lame, but it’s hard to believe. To this day, one of my biggest peeves is when people say things they don’t mean. This shouldn’t be accepted as a harmless white lie, or just saying something for the sake of being nice. It’s not.
5. Calling yourself ugly when you know you’re not, for attention.
I'm not talking about people that have legitimate insecurities. I'm talking about people that take amazing selfies and go, "I'm so ugly TBH..." so that everyone feels forced to remark on how pretty they are. This isn’t body positivity and I refuse to support this kind of negative mindset.
