Please don't let anyone tell you who you are supposed to be. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't pretty enough, strong enough, or successful enough. Just don't let anyone tell you that you aren't enough, because you are.
Yeah, yeah, I know you hear it all the time, you see Facebook post after Facebook post about body positivity and being nice to yourself. Well good! Sometimes it is a good thing to be reminded of all of these things!
Please never let a man or woman define who you are! You should be the only one defining who you are! If you want to make a fashion statement then you go and make that statement. If you want to eat a whole bag of “family size” potato chips and binge watch Netflix, then you go and eat those chips and watch some Netflix. If you want to go out and exercise at 7:30 in the morning and then go do an hour of yoga after, then go do it! Nothing is stopping you from doing what you truly love to do.
Please don't compare yourself to others. “She is so pretty,” “She is so skinny,” “She has so much money," “Why can’t I be her?!” Hey! Stop that! Next time you catch yourself comparing yourself to others remember this quote by Sophia Amoruso; "The energy you’ll expend focusing on someone else’s life is better spent working on your own..." Be the person you've always dreamed of becoming and don’t ever let anyone else's life be in comparison to yours.
Uh-oh, here is a big one. Stretch marks, cellulite, acne, oh my! Guess what though? Those little body imperfections (or in this case perfections) are not unusual. They are evidence that you have lived! Whether you struggle with natural body scars, or self made body scars, they are absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. They show that you are an actual person, who has a life, who goes through things, and who is strong and has either accepted the fact that they are going to have these body perfections, or have fought a hard and tough battle, whereas your scars show the things you have overcome! Embrace the body, and the so called “battle wounds” that you have. They are so beautiful.
Ladies please be nice to all other ladies. There's an old saying that goes something like "you don't know what that person is going through unless you've walked a mile in their shoes" well this saying stands true. Ladies we know us! We know the stuff we go through as women and it can be a tough life at times. As women we need to empower each other. We need to help one another with anything we can, and we need not to tear each other down.
Ladies please. Remember that many aspects of life take time. Change, recovery, healing, happiness, it all takes time. So be patient and in the mean time, be nice to yourself, embrace your life and your body for what it is… which is gorgeous.
Now go slay, you queen!