As I’ve gotten older (to the ripe old age of 20 and a half years old), I’ve learned one of the most heartbreaking realities of life: Women don’t understand how valuable they are. We let all sorts of trivial things define us. We let other people define us and establish our worth based on letters and numbers.
Ladies, we are worth more than any letter or number. Please don’t let that determine how you see yourself. No one can determine your worth unless you let them. Don’t let them.
Your worth is not defined by the number on a scale.
Your worth does not come from the number of dollars in your bank account.
Your worth is not determined by your GPA.
Your worth does not depend on your age.
Your worth is not assigned by the sum of a standardized test.
Your worth does not come from the number of likes, shares, or retweets.
Your worth is not based upon how many boys like you.
Your worth does not depend on what year your car is.
Your worth is not how many square feet your house is.
Your worth does not come from the arbitrary number on a tag.
Your worth is not determined by the letters you wear or don’t wear (for my Greek sisters).
Your worth is not determined by anyone but yourself.I believe that trivial external factors is the only thing holding us back. We are too afraid to do what we love because we are afraid we aren’t good enough, and that’s understandably ridiculous. I understand exactly how that feels. You feel like you aren’t good enough, then you feel dumb about not feeling good enough, then you’re mad at yourself, and before you know it you’re stuck in vicious cycle of self-destructive thinking. Let’s break the cycle. When you feel yourself slipping into that dark abyss of self-destruction, look yourself in the mirror and say, “I deserve to love myself.” Because, well, you do.
Sometimes it is really tough to love yourself. It’s tough to love yourself when none of those silly numbers add up quite right. I’ve been there. It is extraordinarily difficult to love yourself when we live in a society that tells us knowing our worth and having the ability to articulate it is arrogance. It is not. Knowing your own worth, and having the ability to articulate how beautiful you are (beauty is much more than looks) is strength. There is nothing stronger than a woman who stands firm in her self-worth. This strength scares people-especially those who are weak.
The weak will try to bring you down to their level by manipulating you into doubting yourself. Everyone has areas of improvement, and they are quick to point out your’s. Don’t let them. Love yourself, and know that you are not the sum of all of your flaws, misfires, and shortcomings.
You are the only one who gets to determine your worth. If you don’t, society will. Those numbers aren’t a rubric to determine your self worth. You are worth love.
