You Are Worth More Than What You Think And Don't Let Anyone Tell You Differently

You Are Worth More Than What You Think And Don't Let Anyone Tell You Differently

Don't let someone else determine your worth.


As girls we have the tendency to put our worth into other peoples hands. Everyone does this, but I have found that girls are more likely to do this. When I say girls I mean from the ages of middle school to college. Sometimes we start letting people tell us how much we are worth before these ages and continue after these ages as well.

For myself personally I have always put my worth into someone else's hands. I am very bad at letting people control how I feel about myself.

One thing I want to point out is that you don't ever need to let a boy determine your worth. A boy can never tell you how much you are worth. By boy I mean a boyfriend. As girls we think we need a boy attached to us in order for us to be something or someone. This is by no means the truth.

When I was a little girl I used to play princess and I was a princess and my grandfather always played the prince that rescued me. As I have gotten older I have let that little girl who played princess turn into a girl that thinks she actually needs someone.

Recently I have discovered I don't need saving and I don't need someone to determine my worth. However, I need to remember that little girl that loved princesses and princes. I need to remember her because princesses can teach us that we are worth more than what a boy says, but we need to find the one that will rescue us from anything.

Another person I used to place my worth in was my father. Don't get me wrong I love my daddy and think he's the best in the world, but I have always let what he says or think determine what I think or how I feel about myself. This is toxic.

As little girls most of us think our dad is ten foot tall and bullet proof. While I thought that I also longed for him to tell me he was proud of me. While he would tell me how proud of me he was. I always pushed myself in school and the first time that I made a B was not until college and I fell apart because I felt as if he wasn't proud of me.

That is the day that I stopped letting him determine my worth because in my heart I knew I had worked as hard as could and just came up short.

Another set of hands that we place our worth is in the mirror. While the mirror doesn't have physical hands or eyes we still let it tell us how much we are worth. We think the mirror is telling us our worth but really it is what we see that tells us.

There are only two people that can tell us our worth. Those two people are ourselves and God.

With ourselves we need to stop being so hard on ourselves and realize there are failures in life but we will bounce back. Realize that what we see in the mirror we can change. Realize that we control our lives and no one else gets a say about how great we actually are.

God can tell us because he made us. One of my favorite bible verses is Proverbs 3:15 and it reads, " She is more precious than rubies..." and this is so true. Right there God is telling us how much we are worth. Another verse reads we are fearfully and wonderfully made. We are made in his image and therefore no BOY can tell us how much we are worth.

All of the points I have made have been made to make this final point. Next time you look in the mirror love the image that is back at you. You are worth so much and always remember that.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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You May Be In College, But Positive Reinforcement Is Still Essential For A Better Life

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence.


Being a freshman in college is tough, and I'm absolutely positive that I'm not the first person to say that. For me, the biggest adjustments came with being far from home, having to make brand new friends, and actually figuring out what I want to do with my life. Now, those first two items were not that difficult to find solutions to, but that last one? That is a completely different story.

In the span of six-seven months, I have gone back and forth, again and again with just about every combination of majors and minors that you could think of. At this moment, I think I've finally found a combination that will truly push me to succeed in my goals. By the end of next semester, I'm hopeful that I will be able to declare my major and minors.

But, the point of this article is to share the point in this current semester, where I really believed that my goals can become a reality. Right now, I am enrolled in a course called "introduction to critical intelligence studies." After much debate with the class, our professor decided to put our midterm online, making it a take-home exam. It consisted of a few multiple choice questions and three essays of our choosing. With the idea that this exam was take-home, I knew that my professor would be expecting us to put our best foot forward and all of our time and effort into making sure we did well.

And I did. This was the first midterm result that I got back and it was a 100. How did I find this out? For one day, instead of class, my professor met with each of us individually for at least ten minutes to discuss what we were hoping to get out of this class. It was during this meeting that she told me my grades and more.

My professor had explained to me that based on my writing, she did not think that I was just a mere freshman. She continued to say that I have a knack for analysis, as well as the fact that it was truly evident that I took in all the information from her lectures and the assigned readings. With my grades in mind and what I hoped to do in the future, my professor assured me that I should have no problem accomplishing my goals. My professor made sure that I had confidence in myself and my abilities, providing me with even more steps that would lead to success.

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence. This reinforcement has provided me with the means and opportunity to further push myself. Since this meeting, I have been in constant contact with my professor to learn about different opportunities that can build up my resume. With her help, as well as the director of the program, I've been able to learn more about anything and everything that has to do with intelligence.

I'm proud to say that I want to go into such a field. And I'm also proud to say that I'm thankful for everyone who has decided to push me and not only celebrate my successes — but also to help me learn from my mistakes.

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