In this day and age, we are constantly competing to care less, prove that we don’t need anyone except ourselves, and ultimately show the world that we are the most authentic, independent women on the planet. All these things seem fantastic until there is a realization that, because we are trying so d*mn hard to be all of these things, we are actually hindering ourselves from developing other qualities that are incredible.
Because the way we date now is so selfish and materialistic, we have lost sight of how incredible it is to give, care, and love. Being that we are all human and that,for the most part, we all crave the love we want to give so badly, we consciously block the words "I love you" from coming out of our mouths.
We have been socialized to think that loving someone is a weakness.
How incredibly naïve is it to think that allowing someone into your life in a way that is unlike any other is a bad thing? Is it scary? Yes, it is. But how great would it be to actually trust someone? When was the last time we allowed someone into our hearts without pushing them right back out the second they got in?
Trust issues.
Hey, guess what? At this point if you’ve passed the point of 21, you and everyone else is scared to trust someone else with their hearts, too. You are inevitably causing more harm than good by locking all 17 doors with 12 locks and barricading the entrance to your heart. At some point ladies, you’ve got to accept that not every single guy out there is going to sleep with your best friend or decide you aren’t worth it.
If it doesn’t work out, we don’t realize how beneficial a heartbreak is.
The heart break that I went through a year ago that completely wrecked my whole world is the one thing that, as clichéd as it sounds, made me as strong as I am. Heartbreak isn’t something that is going to prevent you from loving any less, and it isn’t going to the end-all-be-all if they don’t love you back.
There are about a million incredible reasons to be alive and stoked to be 20-somethings in this decade. Yes, socialization makes it difficult to stand apart from the crowd and actually care, but can we just take a moment to recognize how stupid that sounds? We feel insecure about caring.
In the long run, it isn’t worth it; you shouldn't hold on to that feeling that you are about to burst if you don’t tell him you love him and keep in those feelings for fear of rejection or lack of trust. Men may seem a bit more stubborn than us, but if you feel it as strongly as you do, he probably loves you too. I get the whole idea of not wanting to be the first to say it, but ladies, life is way too short to keep that kind of love to yourself. Your heart is already committed to loving this human, so you might as well tell him so.
