We're told from very early on in our lives that we will, at some point, deal with loss and heartache in our lives. Whether it be from death or from a break-up, loss of any sort leaves an emptiness in our hearts and an aching in our souls. We don't like for people to do, we don't like for people to leave us, and even though we never want to deal with the bad things that come our way eventually and inevitably, we must do so at some point.
However, we are also sometimes taught that it is better to move on quickly and act like we aren't phased by any tragedy that has happened. If this is your way of dealing with things that happen, then it is fine because it is your method of coping, but if you need to grieve and mourn the losses that come your way, that is perfectly fine as well. Grief is a normal human emotion that we use to process tragedies that occur in our lives, and it is a very real and a very acceptable emotion that can actually be helpful in the process of getting past hard obstacles in our lives.
We also don't have to work through the issues that we face, because God will handle them, just as He promises to do in the Bible and that we need only to be still. Sometimes instead of fighting through hardships, of working so hard to convince everyone around us that we are okay, when on the inside we are actually the furthest thing away from this, we only need to be held.
We often look for the comfort of this state of "being held" in the form of another human, such as our families, friends, or a significant other, sometimes we look for it in tangible things, such as food, alcohol, or even harder things like drugs. We try to convince ourselves that these items of worldly pleasure, or these people that are closest to us, will be our salvation in the midst of devastation.
Although turning to those around us for help through difficult times is not inherently a bad thing, it becomes bad when we turn to these humans over turning to our God. When we don't surrender our grief to the Lord, it's as if we are telling Him, "sorry, God, love ya and all but I really don't think you can help me through this one..." But if we honestly think that the creator of the entire universe isn't capable of healing and handling all of our hurt, how could a human do this for us?
As for the food, or alcohol or drugs, while these things may relieve our minds for a short period of time, they are all temporary fixes that can end up leaving us with permanent problems. The only eternal solution for all of the heartaches that we face on a daily basis or over time is falling into the arms of Christ and allowing Him to hold us and heal us until we are put back together again by the only One who is able to fully and completely do this. We are God's children, and no father likes to see his children hurt, so He wants us to fully rely on Him all the time, not only when we are hopelessly broken. He is always there, and will catch us when we fall as long as we choose to fall on Him.
