Oh, You've Never Been In A Sorority? Then You Don't Get To Judge Sorority Girls

Oh, You've Never Been In A Sorority? Then You Don't Get To Judge Sorority Girls

Do not judge something unless you've experienced it.


I knew I wanted to join a sorority even before I got to college, but I was super anxious. I had heard all of these rumors about hazing, typical sorority girls, you catch the drift. I never realized how wrong people actually were about most sororities these days.

Now, this may not be true for every single sorority, but personally, this is my experience.

Walking into the sorority I would soon be a part of, I felt nothing but genuine sisterhood and compassion. I felt at home. This is one thing you need to stop judging sorority girls for right this instant. Don't say in a high pitched sarcastic tone, "OMG I love my sisters!" You are just degrading the whole organization at heart. In college, you can tend to feel alone and not like you make a difference in the huge student body at hand. Being in a sorority allowed me to completely avoid this loneliness and feel like I actually have a second home here.

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I think it is also important for women nowadays to see other women who are strong, independent, and ultimately good influences right with them. It not only allows for personal growth, but also growth as a chapter.

Also, being able to move out of the storage closet they called my dorm was much needed, especially in order to feel somewhat sane with the hundreds of assignments and events I have going on. It really was necessary for my mental health in a way.

Sororities tend to have a bad rap, but I have done so many positive things already through mine and it is only the second semester of my freshman year.

I have also met so many amazing girls who I know for sure will be my life long friends, sorry guys you're stuck with me now.

All in all, do not judge something unless you've experienced it. You may keep a future sorority girl from joining due to your judgment and negativity, and we all deserve to have a chance at Greek life.

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Every Stereotype You Have About Sorority Girls Is Wrong, Hear Me Out

Twitter videos and jokes aside, sororities mean way more than letters of the Greek alphabet.


There are lots of movies that feature us. By "us" I mean sorority girls. We are portrayed as immoral, cookie-cutter, status-obsessed, perfect, and mean. The title of a sorority girl is often associated with a life which revolves around date parties and socials, the "sorority squat," and clapping and yelling in videos on Twitter of recruitment chants. If you look up "sorority girl" on Urban Dictionary, you are bombarded with phrases like "high maintenance" and "cliquey."

That is how we are perceived by strangers on an anonymous website. As if we are all the same. As if all we care about is what lies on the surface. As if this is all that we are. As if there is not infinitely more to us than what you can see in a photo, dozens of photos, Instagram accounts, Twitter videos, Urban Dictionary definitions, and jokes made between people who have no knowledge or experience in greek life, let alone a sorority.

Stereotypes are usually pretty similar when it comes to classifying us.

Some believe that we don't care about school, that we are in college for the fun, and the connections, rather than to work hard to get where we want to be.

I wonder if people who believe we don't value our education have ever seen the determination of the "sorority girls" I know in studying for their tests in Neuroscience and Political Science classes.

They probably haven't watched my fellow sorority sisters earn 4.0 GPAs semester after semester, or choose to stay in and do their homework on a weekend night. And they definitely haven't seen my friends and sisters help others with their work, without expecting anything in return.

Another stereotype heaped upon sorority girls is that we "pay for our friends."

Sororities have dues, yes, but they cover the price of philanthropy events, maintaining our chapter, keeping our part of a larger organization strong. In my experience, every single one of the friendships I have made with girls in my sorority and other sororities has been anything but fake. I can honestly say that I have never met more genuine girls in my entire life, and it is all because of organizations that were formed over a hundred years ago. And so, to those who believe this stereotype to be true, I say that I must not be paying enough for my friends, because they have enriched my life in so many ways.

My sisters, as cliche, as it sounds, are my support system, biggest encouragers, best friends, the first people I want to share the good news with, and a shoulder to cry on. They uplift me, bring me joy, make me laugh until I cry, and are the best dance partners.

Some people may also believe that we only care about what we can gain from our sorority, rather than what we can give back to it.

Anyone who believes this stereotype is turning a blind eye to the money raised for dozens of charities and worthy causes, such as the Make A Wish Foundation, St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, and the Ronald McDonald House, to name a few. A sororities philanthropy is the heart and reason behind why members stay members. Giving back to the community, and raising money for important causes are just a few of the reasons why being in a sorority cultivates a sense of serving others for a lifetime.

We are not "sorority girls."

We are women in sororities, members of Greek organizations, devoted to our shared values, and determined to succeed. We are scholars, sisters, friends, mentors, achievers, and philanthropists. We are more than what meets the eye, or what is said about us on online or between people joking around. We are kind, we are leaders, we are devoted and we are determined.

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To My Big, My Best Friend, Sister, And Future Bridesmaid

You're the big sister I never had, but always wanted.


Coming to college wasn't the easiest. I was far from home and barely knew anyone when starting. First semester quickly flowed into second, and sorority recruitment came around. My experience was tough and nothing about it felt right.

I ultimately joined a chapter that I was unsure about and slowly started to find my place. It might not have been what I wanted, but it was what I always needed.

I met amazing people and that included you.

Getting a big was something I had looked forward to way before being in a sorority and even college. It was always something I had wanted to do. I grew up with a younger brother but had always wanted a sister.

Thank you for giving me that.

You're the big sister I never had but always wanted.

It's funny how similar our lives and selves are. Our entire greek family really does fit together so well, and it all happens for a reason.

It's nice to have someone that I can relate to and talk to about anything. Know that it always goes both ways and I'm always here.

You quickly became a person I could turn to in good and bad times. Someone I could share clothes, laughs, and hard times with.

In the year that we've been "big" and "little," I can honestly say that you are my best friend. I look up to you so much and finally got that sister relationship.

College wouldn't be the same without you, and I'm so glad we get to share these experiences together. Thinking about you graduating next spring makes me so sad since you won't be so close.

Wherever you end up, know that I'm cheering you on and can't wait to see only success come into your life.

Now that I have a little, I'm trying to build the same relationship with her. Thank you for showing me how to be a great big and person.

I've gained a bridesmaid, a best friend, and a sister.

Love you forever!

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