Jealousy Is A Waste Of An Emotion And Time In A Relationship–Nothing Good Ever Comes Out Of It

Jealousy Is A Waste Of An Emotion And Time In A Relationship–Nothing Good Ever Comes Out Of It

Just let it go.
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Everyone deals with some type of jealousy in their life, whether it's with relationships or simply just comparing yourself to someone else. I've had my fair share of scrolling through my Instagram feed and wishing I was some of the girls that I see on it. The pretty long hair, the perfect body... if only I could have it all. The more and more I thought about it, I came to the realization that there will always be someone out there who is better than me. Better at sports, better at socializing, better at it all.

It's the cold hard truth.

But then again, if there is someone out there who is better than me, there's always someone out there who wishes they could be in my spot. So instead of focusing on who you wish you could be, we all should focus on who we are already. With jealousy, the only person we compete against is our self.

If we're talking about romantic relationships, jealousy will do nothing but cause problems. Being jealous won't do anything but bring anger and stress into your relationship. Absolutely nothing will come out of being jealous. The only thing it will really do is hurt your significant other. Sure, many people think if you or your partner shows jealousy, it tells them that you really care about them, but in the long run, it will end up breaking your relationship.

A big red flag is if jealousy continues to happen in a relationship over and over again. It may not be jealousy anymore, but a lack of trust. We're all humans and get jealous over things. We all have had feelings where we think we're not enough or think of how much better we could be. It happens to everyone. But when it starts to get to the point of getting angry when your boyfriend/girlfriend hang out with their friends or family instead of you or getting jealous over every little single thing where arguing becomes daily is when you need to draw the line and talk about it and what you can do to fix it.

Jealousy is an ugly trait and that's the cold hard truth. I have caught myself being jealous over very small things that shouldn't have mattered and end up regretting it immediately because of how stupid it was. It shows a lack of trust, insecurity and makes us look weak. It may really feel like the world is ending and collapsing at our fingertips when jealousy is taking over our body, but we all have to remember deep down that your significant other is with YOU and they like you for you and not that person you've been comparing yourself to all day and night.

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If You Expect To Be Treated Like A Queen, First Treat Your Man Like A King​

Relationships are give and take, not just take.

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I recently read an opinion article about how a young woman expected her boyfriend to pay for everything for her, and how he has no right to any of her money. Sounds pretty ridiculous right? Unfortunately, this ideology is beginning to take over the young adult dating world.

I often hear girls complaining about a lack of gifts, a lack of expensive dates, or simply a lack of spending on their boyfriend's part. Now, don't get me wrong; it is probably a bad sign if he never has a desire to spend any money on you. However, expecting him to provide you with a lavish lifestyle is not particularly appropriate, nor the point of being in a relationship in the first place.

If you expect your man to pay for an expensive date, then maybe it's your turn to pay for the next one.

If you vent to him for hours about how badly you did on a test or roommate problems, encourage him to spend time with his buddies or play video games the next night. If he has a bad day, put together a little basket of his favorite goodies and take it to his house. If he needs a ride somewhere, be willing to give him one as he's likely driven you to foreign places like Sephora. I think the point is becoming pretty clear.

Treat him as good (if not better) than you expect him to treat you.

Personally, I have always been a straightforward, goal-oriented person who dates to marry. I am fully aware that marriage is not 50 years of being spoiled and showered with gifts. So, why would I (or anyone else for that matter) expect the dating period to be like that?

Truthfully, I believe this is why so many marriages are failing these days.

Women feel entitled to gifts and romance during the dating period, only to find out that marriage isn't the same way. Marriage is messy, difficult, and particularly hard for the first few years. It's full of give and take and it is certainly not about being wined and dined. As time goes on, women begin to think their husband "changed," or he just "doesn't love them anymore." Well, if you're expecting him to show his love with money, you're setting yourself up for failure in the first place.

Relationships are ideally mutually dependent and mutually beneficial.

Time, money, gifts, and other things should never just be flowing one way. It is a constant interchange of both abstract concepts and concrete objects, all with the goal of showing you care for one another. So, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be treated like a queen. You just better make sure you treat your man like a king.

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