It’s okay to hurt. It’s okay to fall down sometimes and feel like the weight of the world is on top of you.
It’s okay to laugh, to cry, to be sad, etc. Your feelings, no matter what they are, are valid. You don’t have to hide or pretend to be happy when you’re not. Let people know how you feel. Let others into your life. Lean on friends and family when times get tough, but never stay down.
It’s okay to be alone. No one can determine your worth, but you.
No guy can decide how valuable you are. Do not let others dictate how you feel about yourself. Do not let their words or their actions cause you pain. You are bright, you are brilliant, and you are beautiful. It takes true strength to love someone through their bad times. If he wasn’t willing to be there for you through those tough times, then he wasn’t worthy of you during your good.
I have gone through heartbreak, I have felt pain.
I know what it’s like to want to give up. You’re allowed to feel broken, but never feel unfixable. You are worthy of life, laughter, and happiness. No one can take that away from you. You don’t need a man to validate your existence. You don’t need a boyfriend to feel loved. And you don’t need a silly boy to tell you whether you’re “good enough” because you will always be good enough.
Take that pain and frustration and channel it into something else. For me, that’s writing. When I was first dumped by a boy (and I do mean boy) I thought my life was over. I thought, “no one will ever love me.” Then I sat down, and I wrote, and I wrote, and I wrote.
I never stopped. I wrote stories, autobiographies, you name it. I just had to get my thoughts written down. Fast forward years later and I’m feeling much better.
I’ve forgotten about the boy who first hurt me, I’ve moved on from the first man that said those three little words, and I’m working on overcoming the pain of my latest heartbreak. Time heals all wounds. I know in time I will feel happier, stronger, and better than I ever was. In time, I will learn to let go and love myself. Loving others is important, but self-love is just as valuable.
