There are many times where I find myself giving someone relationship advice, comforting them over a breakup, or helping them reason with why their significant other hasn't texted them back (don't roll your eyes too hard or 'ugh' too loud). These are situations that I find myself in very often. I don't do it out of passion, sensitivity, or early practice as a marriage counselor. Even though I don't necessarily enjoy giving relationship advice or talking someone through the issues that may follow, I use this as a way to tell my peers, "it's okay, don't rush it."

Now I know a lot of you are asking, "Rush what?!" The sex? The relationship phases? The mutual feelings? What I actually mean is don't rush yourself into a relationship for the sake of getting rid of that lonely feeling, or because you're tired of being the single friend in the group, or because you feel like "it's time" for you to start dating more. I'm sure you've gotten on every dating app there is, messaged someone in their DM's on social media, and probably even asked your best friend to put in a god word for you. I'm no psychic, but I can bet my life that none of those methods got you a "bae".

Has it ever occurred to you that you're probably meant to be single right now? That maybe there's something else or other things that have to get done before that right person can come into your life. Or before you can start dating. I'm a strong believer in destiny, fate, and pre-determined futures, and things of that ideology. I truly believe that there's a perfect time and place for everything. Maybe the person that may find you to be the queen or king of the earth isn't in the same school as you, or same city as you, heck, they're probably on the other side of the earth.

There's probably an insecurity or some baggage that you need to get rid of before that person can come into your life.

And let's not forget about the elephant in the room...YOURSELF. There's so much to do, to see, to accomplish instead of worrying about having a "boo," "bae," "baby". Finish school, start working on a business, work on yourself, enhance your self-care habits and methods, work more hours and save your money, DO YOU. The time will come when you're going to have worry about someone else and other little ones (if you choose to have kids or pets, both work), to worry about.

So as of right now my friends, calm down and just let it go. Stop chasing that person, that relationship, those bad habits, those terrible moods, leave it all behind and don't rush it because it will be okay. That time will come sooner than you know it.