You know when people tell you "it'll be okay" or "you'll be okay"? And it's always at the worst possible times because that's not what you want to hear.
Sometimes it's good to hear that things aren't going to be okay and you're going to hurt like hell. Why? Because it's the truth. Obviously, things will get better with time, but there will be times when you don't want to listen to that.
It's okay to be sad, depressed, upset, mad, and anything else because your feelings are absolutely valid. Even if something hasn't happened to you, it's okay to be sad. Everyone has their good and bad days.
I've been through break ups, friendships ending, and deaths so I definitely know what it's like to be upset about something for a long period of time. Some friends told me, "you'll be okay" and I appreciate that now because they were there for me. Then again, the friends that told me to take all the time I need and it'll be hard helped me ever more solely because they were there to listen and offer advice. Which I not only appreciated, but needed.
So it's definitely okay to not be okay. It happens. There's a quote my best friend sent me after a break up. It helped me so much, so I'll share with you and hopefully it'll help you as much as it did for me.
"I know you’ve lost someone and it hurts. You may have lost them suddenly, unexpectedly. Or perhaps you began losing pieces of them until one day, there was nothing left. You may have known them all your life or you may have barely known them at all. Either way, it is irrelevant — you cannot control the depth of a wound another soul inflicts upon you.
Which is why I am not here to tell you tomorrow is another day. That the sun will go on shining. Or there are plenty of fish in the sea. What I will tell you is this; it’s okay to be hurting as much as you are. What you are feeling is not only completely valid but necessary — because it makes you so much more human. And though I can’t promise it will get better any time soon, I can tell you that it will — eventually. For now, all you can do is take your time. Take all the time you need."
-Lang Leav, "Broken Hearts"
I also think of the song Who You Are by Jessie J. It's a beautiful song with powerful lyrics.
When I'm down, what helps me is getting my mind off of whatever is bothering me. For me, that means hanging out with my friends, studying, or doing something productive. Usually being around others puts me in a better mood. Or music, music always seems to do the trick.
Take all of the time you need to heal and if you need to, talk it out to someone (your parents, family, friends, or a professional) because talking about it always makes things better!
Just remember, people will always be there for you and to take your time to heal from whatever you're going through!
