In this day and age, being old fashioned is a rare characteristic to come by. Modern ideas such as rules are made to be broken, sex before marriage is acceptable, gender roles are discrimination, and religion is no more than an idea are making a huge impact on society. This new lifestyle is taking over millennials, leaving old fashioned people feeling hopeless for the future.
The way men and women interact today is very shocking. Some men no longer feel the need to treat women with respect as they call them offensive names and throw around foul comments. Women don't seem to mind being treated poorly and would rather fit in with the guys than be treated like a lady. Chivalry is dying, and people are so independent that they are ok with it. Asking someone on a date has now become a swipe of the thumb on social media. Women can’t stay at home and take care of the kids because it makes them look like they are not suitable for the workforce. Hookups have replaced relationships, and commitment is one of the scariest words to bring up in conversation. This is the mindset of many people. Where did it all go wrong?
For people who still believe in dates, a man paying for the woman, holding the door, buying her flowers, treating her like a lady, waiting for marriage and being ready for commitment, you are feeling pretty left out in the 2016 dating scene. You probably think that there is no one out there with the same values as you, so maybe you should change yourself to fit in. Don’t. There is someone out there with the same old soul looking for someone just like you. The pressures of today’s society are unbelievable, and college is such an odd time to experience all of this. While you are trying to figure yourself out, you are being molded by your surroundings to be something else. Don’t change yourself and settle for what is demanded of you, demand something of yourself. I promise it is worth it. I can’t tell you how many instances I have seen where people go against everything they stand for just to fit in with what society is teaching as the ‘college experience’.
College is accompanied by so much pressure; what to do with your life, who you want to be, where you want to be, the list is endless. I encourage you to stick to who you are right now and you will end up exactly who you should be. Do not let the world change you. It is ok to be old fashioned, there are people that still prefer it. Don’t be discouraged by the majority. There is someone out there that wants everything that you are without having to change a thing. I love being in a relationship with someone that loves me for who I am, shares my morals, treats me like a lady, trusts me, respects me, and is not afraid of commitment.
The temporary hookups and immediate satisfaction are teaching people that commitment doesn’t have to exist, and relationships can be based off of temporary satisfaction. There is no sacrifice for the other person, no passion, no love. Chivalry does not have to die, and this twisted mindset of how relationships work can be straightened out. If you are an old fashioned person, I encourage you to just be yourself. Do not get wrapped up in the modern trends that go against who you are. Stick to your morals, and everything will work out just fine.
