New (School) Year, New Me

New (School) Year, New Me

It's my turn.

I think your freshman year of college is a trial run to see how you do on your own. It's actually a really big step. One day you're in your house having everything paid for by your parents and the next your in a dorm, sleeping next to someone you met just the day before learning how to do everything on your own. Of course you're going to make mistakes, you're going to get lost at least once or twice and it's up to you to find your own way back on your path.

And that's what happened to me. I got lost and it took me awhile and a lot of energy to find my way back. I lacked confidence, I was giving up, I hated myself and everything around me. I got lost. But that's okay. Because this year, I'm going in with a different perspective. It's a new school year, and it's going to be a new me. This is my year.

1. More confidence.

I'm awesome. I'm funny. I'm good looking. I'm smart. I'm capable of anything. No, I'm not conceited, these are just things I've always doubted about myself and truth be told, it's time for that to be changed. I have to love myself before anything. I have to believe in everything I just said. And with this new year, I'm going to do that. Love yourself, you are worth it and you deserve some recognition.

2. Step out of that comfort zone.

I say this to everyone, "Be bold and try new things!" But I never take my own advice. Want to wear something different that you've never worn before? WEAR IT. Own it. Want to try new foods? Try a new Starbucks drink? Do it. It could be your favorite thing and you wouldn't even have noticed it unless you tried it. Think that person sitting next to you is cute? Talk to them. Make the first move. JUST DO SOMETHING WITH YOUR LIFE AND BE BOLD. BE DARING.

3. Try a new style.

This is the time to experiment. Want to do a crazy hairstyle? Do it. If it doesn't work, you can always go back and change it. Want to try a new sense of clothing? Buy it, you can rock anything. Want to get more into makeup? Do it! It's a fun challenge for yourself. Want to try the all natural look? DO IT. You're beautiful no matter what. (Something I need to start telling myself more and if you don't, then you should too.)

4. Kick ass in literally everything.

Like I said, it's a new school year and it's a new me. If I want to do it, then I'll do it. I'm redefining my image. I want to be the girl that people know she's confident, she knows what she wants to do with her life. Basically, just kick ass.

I've been saying this for the past week as I start packing to return to school, something I'm extremely excited for. I'm constantly telling myself those little reminders and to actually try and be happy this year, to not let the little things get to me. Because that's what happened last year, I let every little thing get to me and it almost destroyed me. But not this year. This year, I'm going in with a new mind set, something that nobody can take from me because I'm awesome. It's just now my time to believe it and take myself serious. And once I do, I'll continue to kick ass.

So... what are your goals for the incoming school year?

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.

Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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14 Honest College Things The Class Of 2023 Needs To Know ~Before~ Fall Semester

Sit down, be humble.


To The Class of 2023,

Before you start your college career, please know:

1. Nobody...and I mean nobody gives a shit about your AP Calculus scores.


" I got a 5 in Calc AB AND BC, a 5 in AP Literature, awh but I only got a 4 in AP Chem"

2. THE SAME GOES FOR YOUR SAT/ACT SCORES + nobody will know what you're talking about because they changed the test like 10 times since.


3. College 8 AMs are not the same as your 0 period orchestra class in 12th grade.


4. You're going to get rejected from a lot of clubs and that does not make you a failure.


5. If you do get into your clubs, make sure not to overwhelm or overcommit yourself.

visual representation of what it looks like when you join too many clubs


6. It's OK to realize that you don't want to be pre-med or you want to change majors.


7. There will ALWAYS ALWAYS be someone who's doing better than you at something but that doesn't mean you're behind.


8. "I'm a freshman but sophomore standin-" No, you don't have to clarify that, you'll sound like an asshole.


9. You may get your first ever B-, C+ or even D OR EVEN A W in your life. College is meant to teach you how to cope with failure.


10. Go beyond your comfort zone. Join a theatre club if you're afraid of public speaking. Join an animal rescue club if you're afraid of animals. College is learning more about yourself.


11. Scholarships do exist. APPLY APPLY APPLY.


12. Don't try to brag about all the stuff you did in high school, you'll just sound like a weenie hut jr. scout


13. Understand and be sensitive to the fact that everybody around you has a different experience and story of getting to university.


14. You're going to be exposed to people with different opinions and views, don't fight them. Instead, try to explain your perspective and listen to their reasoning as well.


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