I've seen it and heard it a lot. When asked what people think of a person the typical answer goes straight to appearance. "Oh, she's beautiful.", "She's hot.", "He's fine.", "Her body says it all.". Although some may take that as a compliment, for me, it's a sort of an insult. People are more than their looks and by judging from appearance first, it ruins the complexity of a human being. Being attracted to one's outer appearance shouldn't be the sole purpose of starting a relationship.

I mean sure she's pretty to look at but did you know she's studying to be a doctor?

Yes, he's a total gym freak, his body is in pristine shape but did you know he's a talented artist?

You'll never get the chance to know just how deep people are if you think their appearance makes them less intelligent than you are, in that situation it seems you are the only one who lacks intelligence.

There was a video I watched recently that could possible have something to do with what I have said or none to little do with what I'm talking about, but nonetheless it's important. It goes into the topic of relationships, it's amazing advice from a very lovely woman, and I just think more people should take this into consideration. Check out the video, https://twitter.com/TayChay_/status/792426035157622785

She begins the video saying that the first step is to be friends first. Which is important and obvious but in this time period I think we lack the foundation needed and head straight for a relationship. Being friends means knowing them, knowing their stances politically, religiously, anything. Getting to know each other's families. "Things that you intellectually agree with."

She states that when you become sexually attracted to someone you don't think about the important things. For example, family medical problems that could be passed down to your future children if you chose to pursue that with the person you're with. "You're too wrapped up in sex, you don't think."

Finding things in common is super important too, going to things you like to do and finding like-minded people, connecting in that aspect.

She talks about when someone wants to marry you and tries to pursue you in that way, don't just outright have sex because they've stated they want to marry you, "Keep it on an intellectual level." "Say no, we're not going to do that, if you want to marry me then let's plan a wedding, go through the engagement." That whole statement to me is so powerful. Moments like these are really important because emotions are running wild and you want to jump the gun, but remember what you want and set the goal and go until you achieve it.

She mentions making sure they have a job, that you both are financially sound, do you both spend the same way, are you frugal, can you save money? If you jump straight into sex and are compatible in bed, it doesn't last that long, so what are you going to do afterwards? Are you going to not have any common interests? Fight about things you disagree on? These are things you want to find out before, at the friendship level.

"If you don't have things in common, sex isn't going to hold together a marriage."

"You've got to have a tighter bond then sex, and it has to be intellectual."

Getting to know people past their appearance is important, connecting with them on an intellectual state is more powerful than connecting with someone due to other factors. A beautiful mind and soul sounds more appealing than just a body, the outside can be seen by all but the inside is shown only to those who care to look.