When we were younger, getting a boyfriend was the ultimate feat and the topic of every single conversation. "Oh my god did he just look at me? We're in love". "He doesn't even notice me. My life is over." While those years seem like they were a century ago, they still happened. Years later, we have matured and realized that not having a man in your life is not the end of the world.

Being single can actually be the greatest thing for you and give you the space you need to complete all of your personal goals and completely dominate your life, making it solely about you and what's best for you.

However, with this newfound strive to be independent women (and men), a stigma has been created. Now, we suffer the opposite of the problem we had in middle school. Now, if a woman complains that she wants a man, the immediate response is "you don't need a man in your life to be happy". Hit the pause button, please.

I know I don't need a man to be happy. That is not what I am saying at all. What I'm saying is, being a boss babe all by myself can get a little lonely sometimes.

Jokes aside, I am serious. Sometimes all you want in life is companionship that is more intimate than simply a friendship. Even when I am spending all of my time focused on my goals and building lasting skills and relationships, I still want a night with a man to cuddle and spend a night happily content and in love.

I don't think you have to only be an independent woman OR be in a loving relationship. You can have both and frankly, I am not about to let anyone deny me the right to love AND personal fulfillment.

I will have my cake and eat it too, thank you.

To all the boss babes (and boss boys) out there, don't let someone deny you the right to love. Sometimes you need someone up there on the pedestal with you.