Breakups suck in any form. Whether you've been dating for a couple of months or a couple of years. Recently, I went through a breakup and I can tell you the pain was a pain I never felt before. I was in love and pictured myself with that person for much longer than anticipated. But unfortunately, all good things must come to an end.
Moving on is the worst part, that person who has been your rock the last year or so knows everything about you... even things your parents may not know. You put time and effort into them, and one day it all just stops. When this happens, it leaves you to sit and wonder what you've done wrong and what you could've done to prevent this. I felt like my life was over, the moment I'd think about it, I'd start to cry. I didn't eat or want to do anything for a week.
As time went on, the more I realized that being broken up with actually drove me to be more successful.
When I got broken up with, the more time I had to myself and the more time I thought to myself. And during this time, I became aware of what exactly I needed to do for myself and that was to focus on my own goals instead of focusing on someone else's. I was too worried about pleasing my significant other, that I wasn't concentrating on myself enough. I was putting all my attention on them and not looking out for what I needed. And eventually, that drove him away and I don't blame him.
Some people just aren't meant to be together, but as much as the heartbreak hurt, I am grateful that I finally realized what I needed for myself and that is to concentrate on me first. It may sound selfish, but in order to love someone, you need to love yourself first.
