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I'm The Girl Who Has Never Really Had Girl Friends

Trust me, it's not by choice.

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I'm The Girl Who Has Never Really Had Girl Friends
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It's a familiar twinge that I get in my heart whenever I watch movies like "Pitch Perfect" or "Clueless" - the ache of thinking, "I want that sort of friendship."

Sure, movies stereotype a lot in portrayals of female friendships. Either the girls are a tight knit, sleepover every night sort of group, or there's the mean girl situation, or the misfit girl and popular girl who find their way to each other. It's all very cliche. Watching it, though, I realize that I've really never had anything close. I wish I did.

The truth is, I've had very few girl friends in my life that weren't family members. My cousin and my sisters were the closest girls I've ever had in my life. Of course, I've had two or three close female friends, but it was nothing like the friendships I've encountered in the lives of other people.

I grew up with guys as best friends. That's just how it always has been. My two best buds growing up were/are my cousin (a dude) and our closest family friend (another dude). It's what I was comfortable with, and more than happy with. It was my trio, my tribe, my squad. Now, I've realized that maybe I became too comfortable being only good friends with guys. At the time, I didn't really need any female input or support, but I do now. Maybe I blocked myself off from opening my mind to girls nights and manicures. Perhaps I'm realizing this all a little too late.

Either way, I've always wanted that person - my person. I admire and envy the girls who talk on the phone, have nicknames for each other, and are there for each other through thick and thin. They are never seen as a threat to one another. I want a friend who would stand up for me to people who talk about me behind my back - someone who would personally seek out anyone who broke my heart.

I won't lie, not having a group like that absolutely sucks.

I wish I had someone to talk to about girly things, especially when I'm at college and my sisters are so far away. I want a friend so dedicated that they call me all the time to tell me about what's going on with them, and to ask about how things are going. Someone who would never judge, and will always take my side. I want a stereotypical, movie group of female friends. There would be no objections to a repeat of that scene from "Pitch Perfect 2" where the Bellas stomp across the campus grounds together in an epic and intimidating posse. That'd be so cool.

Now, this isn't to take away from any of my friendships with the amazing group of guy friends I have, nor from the bond I share with the wonderful ladies in my family. They are all amazing to me, and I'm beyond blessed to be inspired by their generosity and compassion on a daily basis. They are truly too good to me.

It's just that sometimes I feel like I've really been missing out on something that could make life even better.

So, for those of you who have been lucky enough to find that amazing, tight group to spend your time with, treasure it forever. For those of you who feel the same way I do, know you are not alone in that. Maybe it's just a timing thing, and our best gal pals are still on the way.

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