When most people think of what an introvert they have a very clear image in their head. They see a super shy person who is always reading and can't speak in public and is generally not a fun person. And for that reason, people find it surprising that I consider myself an introvert. I'm not a particularly quiet person, especially around friends. I have no trouble talking to a large group and I mean I like to think I'm a fun enough person.
How can that be? How can somebody be outgoing, but also introverted? Well, turns out it isn't all that uncommon. To be introverted means that you get your energy by spending some time alone. Not that you can't have a good time in a group, but you feel the most rejuvenated after you've had some "me time." On the other hand, extroverts get their energy from other people. They feed off of the spirit other people have.
A professor I have once was trying to explain to us the difference between the two and he had a very simple and effective way of thinking of it. He said that both extroverts and introverts can enjoy a party; but after the party is over, the introvert is ready to go home to recharge, while the extrovert is now all geared up for the afterparty. This got me thinking about myself and how I recharge my batteries.
While the nomenclature of the terms really isn't very important, what is important to know is how you can feel your very best. It's good to know what makes you happiest and how you can energize yourself. There is no "right way" to be and there will always be people who fall somewhere between these two categories. However, trying to figure out how you work, what makes you run the best, is so important and yet often overlooked.
It is also important to be aware of how other people feel the most comfortable. We have to try our best to understand that what works for us might not work for someone else. While one person might love going out every night, someone else might prefer to spend the night alone and both are equally valid. I'll repeat, "there is no 'right way' to be."
Beyond all the categories and definitions, the most crucial aspect of understanding introversion and extroversion is to live by the motto "you do you." Do what makes you comfortable. Live in a way that makes you happy. Don't give in to others' expectations. Own your personality and never be afraid to be exactly who you are.
