Nothing pisses me off more than girls/guys who live to blow everything out of proportion and can't get it through their heads what reality actually is. A bit harsh? Maybe. But it's just unreal to me how common it is, especially nowadays, that people don't know the status of themselves and another human being. IT'S CALLED COMMUNICATION. I promise you, it will solve your problems.
Cut the bullsh*t of "Omg I don't want to ask what we are" because let me tell you, it's better than looking like a psycho down the line when you've been telling people that you were "together" with someone and they viewed you as nothing more than an easy booty call. I've seen it happen, and have even had to set a few people straight myself, and nothing good comes from it. Do yourself and everyone else a favor and figure out where you stand with someone before getting attached.
Our generation is so caught up in fantasy la la land, that by someone looking in your freakin' direction apparently means some sort of deep loving connection. Sex does not equal feelings — it would be nice if it did — but don't get it twisted when someone takes up on the opportunity to sleep with you, text you casually and that's about all that happens. Shocking fact: texting you does not equal feelings, neither does calling you babe, nor does having an emoji next to your contact (I'm rolling my eyes so hard as I type this, but there are actually people out there that feel this way) but you know what does equal feelings? Someone telling you they have feelings for you.
Without communicating your wants, needs, and expectations it is unfair to assume that someone is just automatically on the same page as you. Times have changed and some people's values have changed as well, definitely have that conversation before you start making assumptions. Or better yet, don't assume, because there's a chance you will be disappointed. Being straightforward and upfront will only attract people that want the same things as you.
I think it's about time we:
1. Get our heads out of our assh*les and wake up to the reality that everyone does not have the same heart as you, and you actually have to ask people how they feel about you before assuming that you are something special to them.
AND
2. Realize that it's not always a Cinderella story, sorry ladies and gents but someone being your #1 snapchat best friend and hooking up with you at some party does not make them Prince/Princess Charming... or anything for that matter.
This is not to say that being upset over someone is not warranted because everyone is entitled to their feelings. But I think we all need a reminder that as much as Mommy and Daddy said everything you feel is important, and what you say matters to everyone- it doesn't. Your feelings are YOUR feelings, not someone else's. And not everyone you care about is going to care about you. but that's ok. It's better to weed out the unimportant people so that the people we deserve have room to step into our lives.
Long story short; if you think you're with someone, I suggest you figure that sh*t out before they move on and you're left wondering what the hell happened, and only further become a burden to yourself, them, and everyone else that they actually want in their lives.
Life's too short to be worried about someone who's the furthest thing from being worried about you.
