I guess you could say I got lucky. I never experienced half the drama my friends have in their past or current relationships. Maybe I was so close-minded to the real-life issues couples faced because, for a while, I lived in my perfect little bubble. It wasn't until I went to college that I realized how lucky I had been in my past relationship.
Who knew people actually got mad at their significant others over little things such as being in a group photo with people of the opposite gender? Who knew couples actually got into screaming matches? Who knew people have said the words "f*ck you" to someone they claim to love?
Not I.
Here's what I've learned, and wow, was I naïve.
Girls are batsh*t crazy.
First of all, if you didn't already know, batsh*t crazy means to be completely mad or crazy according to the Oxford Dictionary.
I once overheard a girl say that she was legitimately mad at her boyfriend because he was tweeting another girl — a girl who was his friend. A tweet is pretty harmless. Not to mention he did have friends that were girls before you came along. Are you kidding me? Lighten up.
It blows my mind when girls get mad at their boyfriends for being friends with other girls. You have friends who are boys, what's the difference? At the end of the day you should trust him. Unless he's had a flaky past, then I'd start running now if I were you. Otherwise, play nice, little girl.
Guys are also batsh*t crazy.
There are guys out there who control their girlfriends every move. These guys tell their girlfriends what she can and cannot wear and whether she should go out with their friends or not. For starters, my own parents don't even tell me what to wear so if any guy ever tried, I'd probably laugh in his face. Secondly, you're young. Go out if you want to go out, and stay in if you feel like doing so, not because someone else told you to.
It's amazing how controlling guys can be. It's even more amazing to watch a girl listen to him as if he's God's gift to the world. Girlfriend, if he's telling you how to live your life, he's probably not the one. Just a thought, but then again what do I know?
We're all a little crazy
No matter how "chill" you may claim to be, it's a fact that everyone gets jealous or feels threatened at times. It's impossible not to, we're only human. However, small occurrences turn into red flags once we try to change and control another person, because that is not human nature.
I'm obviously not a relationship expert by any means, but if you have to change the person you're with, then the two of you probably shouldn't be together. You should never be forced to do or not do something because your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't agree with it. I'm talking about small things here such as hanging out with your friends, not doing hard-core drugs. Although, you should try to steer clear from those too.
After witnessing different situations where couples expose their true colors, it has taught me what I want and what I don't want in a relationship. Sure, everyone wants someone who's cute, has a good personality and has life goals, but we forget to look for people who accept us for who we are, not who they want us to be.
I'll be the first to admit I'm an awkward person, but I'm never going to apologize for that, or change who I am because it doesn't fit another person's standards. I was once called unique, and I'm still not entirely sure if that's good or bad, but hey, it's better than being like everyone else, right?
As you experience relationships, new or old, keep in mind that you were not put on this earth to please your significant other. Take control of your life and stop letting your significant other live it for you.
*Mic Drop*
