Mothers are some of the greatest people on earth. From cleaning up after our messes when we were two, to always making us laugh and wiping our tears, moms never let us down.
Some mother-daughter relationships go beyond the typical mother-daughter relationship and reach a whole new level of love. It’s a common respect for each other, a trust. That’s when your mom becomes your best friend.
When moms can be both a parental figure and a friend, sets boundaries, but also allows her children to be themselves, that’s when you know you have a cool mom.
1. She will never say “I told you so."
She lets you make your own mistakes and is there every step of the way to help you get back up if you fall. If you don’t study enough for a test and get a bad grade she boosts you up and asks when the next test is so she can keep on top of things and encourage you to study. When you suffer a heartbreak she doesn’t say “he was never good enough for you.” Instead, she hugs you tight, wipes your tears and signs you up for an online dating site!
2. There’s no such thing as boundaries.
When you’re on the phone with your mom but you really have to pee, you don’t put the phone down or mute it, you simply continue the conversation.
3. You talk just about 50 times a day.
Whether it’s a two-hour long conversation, a five-second question to ask if you can use bleach in your laundry or just calling her because you’re walking home from class by yourself and you don’t want to feel alone, your phone is on speed dial to reach her any time, day or night.
4. She is concerned and caring but doesn’t hover.
She raised you so she knows that you’re a good kid and she doesn’t feel the need to pry into your life. She also knows you will tell her (almost) every little detail whether she wants to hear it or not. And sometimes she’ll share details about something that you don’t want to hear about!
5. She offers to buy alcohol and sit with you the first time you try it.
When my friends were all experimenting with drinking I would always remember the lessons my mom taught me about drinking. When I was ready to try alcohol she told me she would rather buy it for me and be with me when I tried it rather than having me go to some teen party where alcohol could be tainted with drugs, or I could get alcohol poisoning. I was shocked that she would do that but when I thought about it, it was pretty darn cool.
6. Your mom is everyone's mom.
Your friends love your mom almost as much as you do. Sometimes you even wonder if they come over to hang out with you or get some of your mom’s delicious homemade brownies. Every week they ask if a care package from home has arrived and what’s in it!
7. You can never stay mad at each other.
She may tell you things you don’t like and you may get mad, but after thinking about it, you realize she is probably right. When you realize a fight was stupid, or you know that you couldn’t possibly go on with your day knowing that she was mad at you, you always call and makeup quickly.
8. Your answer to “who is your biggest role model” is always your mom.
Anytime I go on a job interview I always know that question will come up and without a doubt, I always know what I am going to say. Simply the truth, that I would not be the person I am today without her and I know I owe her everything. She’s taught me to have a good moral code, value family and friendships, live life to the fullest without any regrets. I may not always agree with how she lives her life but I admire the things she’s accomplished. When she went back to college to get her Master’s degree it affected our time together and she was under a lot of stress. But I was so proud when she walked across the stage and received her degree.
9. You have your own language.
From the stares across the room, to the lifted eyebrow, to saying one word to each other, we can communicate a lot! It’s said that twins have their own secret language - sometimes I think my mom and I do too.
10. You have “your ritual TV show” which you just cannot miss watching together.
No matter how hectic your separate lives can get, every Monday night you make time for the “The Bachelor” so you can talk about it Tuesday. Or when I’m home we have to watch “Criminal Minds” together because I just cannot watch that show alone!
11. You would classify your mom as your best friend.
She is the first to know when anything happens, good or bad. She tells you like it is, but never judges. She teaches you to look at all sides of an issue before jumping to a decision. She always has your back. She’ll never throw you under the bus.
I don’t mind admitting I have a cool mom. And you know what they say about cool moms? They tend to raise pretty cool kids! Thanks Mom!
