Maybe our parents, grandparents, and great grandparents stayed together so long because they didn’t have numerous people following them on social media. They couldn’t just post a selfie and get attention in a matter of minutes through likes and comments. Maybe they weren’t constantly looking for something better as they saw an unrealistic representation of what a relationship should be.
We try and meet prospective soul mates through a screen simply by either swiping left or right after seeing just 1 photo. Try and explain what Tinder is to your grandma and you will quickly realize how insane it sounds. Nowadays, instead of love letters we send emojis. Instead of calling someone to let them know they’ve be on our mind, we send a Snapchat. This is simply not acceptable.
If someone doesn’t text us back quickly, we just assume we are not important enough for them. On the other hand, when we see our phones light up from across the room we get an instant high from that. The ping/text tone is like heroin to our ears. It’s our generation's biggest addiction.
In a sense, social media has become a type of contest. Some people simply want to date to post pictures with cute captions. We all know that couple that tags themselves in every single location they are at together.
When is the last time you sat down to dinner with someone without your phone? We all know the answer is much longer in the past than we want to admit to. This is a glaring issue in today’s dating world. No one truly gives anyone their full attention anymore, it’s a sad reality.
Instead of waking up to tell someone "good morning," what do we do? We roll over and grab our phones. Checking to see if we got any notifications on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and then texts. Maybe we will even send a "good morning" text to someone if we have enough time between checking all our accounts before we realize we are going to be late and rush to get into the shower.
I challenge everyone reading this to do a few things in the next week. They will change your life.
Start sending a "good morning" text and let your partner know they are the very first thing you thought of when waking up. The next time you are out to dinner, put both your phones in the glove box of the car. Actually talk, have a deep conversation over a good meal, look into their eyes when you speak to them instead of down at a bright screen half paying attention to what they are saying.
It will be insanely refreshing, believe me. Don’t take my word for it, though, find out for yourself.
