If I have to hear one more person tell me who he or she is “talking to” I might lose it. Before technological barriers and games, it was called dating. Most young adults now are referring to their intimate relationships as talking. If you are sleeping with a guy, I hope you are talking to him or that would be super weird.
It’s all backwards anyway because everyone uses all these social medias sights to seem just interested enough to seem uninterested so that the guy you like would think you’re interested. It’s the game of who care the least where everyone loses.
I’m sorry, because if he gets mad when you flirt with other guys, you’re dating. If you get a good morning text, you’re dating. If you don’t panic about the future, you’re dating. Because you know your future is with them.
I often idealize relationships and make them out to be something they are not. When it seemed like you were made from the same batch of sugar and spice and everything indie. Then they get bored. They stop trying. They stop texting, stop sending pictures, and start avoiding you. Sometimes you’re not hopelessly in love, you’re just “talking”. Saying that you’re talking defeats the purpose though. It minimizes those feelings that you had for that person. Let yourself feel all the good and the bad in a relationship. I’m sorry, but it is a relationship.
I fall victim to telling my friends I’m “talking” to a new guy. The classic “We aren’t putting labels on it, we are just having fun”. I’m usually sorry about it because that’s really not how I feel.
The real problem is the disappointment. When no one says that it's over because there isn’t anything to end. When your friends ask about him and you have to say “Oh yeah that’s over”. It’s hard just hearing his name. You lost something you never really had.
Of course it hurt. Obviously you learn from it and move on. Keep trying though. Don’t stop telling your friends about guys you’re talking to and don’t be ashamed when you want more than that. If we are talking it probably means I see a future… eventually. Give it time and the right things will come. Maybe one day you guys can say you’re dating not that you’re “talking”.
