What are your relationship goals? Who do you want to be in your relationship? Do you look for love or do you look for someone to pass your time? If your goals aren't to find someone you could potentially marry, please don't even date. If you're only dating because you found someone who is cute and will buy you nice things, you're very silly and might be tainting someone's future spouse. It's the failed relationships that make it hard for someone like myself to be a giver in this world.
A giver or romantic in a relationship is someone who looks beyond what they need or want and they do whatever in their power to make their significant other happy. We will drop everything last minute just to make sure our people get what they deserve. I love being a giver. I believe that love works on a give and take level and I don't mind giving a little more. It doesn't have to be material things. The gift of compliments or even space can go just as far.
These days, it's really hard to be this person. We live in a time where no one wants to actually date. We want to "talk" to four or five different people so we can get the feel for what we want. There are no dates anymore. We have "Netflix and chill" or snap chat flirting. Really, guys? Is the idea of being happy with one person really that scary to you? I'll be honest, there are so many people who are afraid of the givers in relationships. Why? Because they make them happy and they start to catch feelings.
The idea of someone doing things to make you happy can be a little overwhelming. I totally get that. We want someone who is mean to us because it actually means they love us. Or at least, that's what the movies tell us. It's depressing to know your generation needs to be belittled to feel loved. The idea that a person could actually care what we things is just unimaginable.
This brings us to another problem. Once you finally find this nice guy or girl you've been wanting, they're tainted. They just got out of a relationship that didn't end well. You can promise and show them all you want that you're different and that you can provide the happiness they need. But they're already convinced they don't want anything serious because they were hurt before. They've officially given up due to someone who wasn't wanting to settle down before you. Do you still give and move forward? Of course you do! Because you're a hopeless romantic in a pitiful world.
Everyone should be the person that doesn't give up. You want to be that girl or boy who gives their significant other the moon. You could be dating your future and never know until you mess it up by being stupid about your decisions. If not yours, the it's someone else's future you just made uneasy about taking a chance on love. Uplift and make them better. Even if your relationship doesn't last, make it something to be remembered. Make it something you and that other person will use to build a better life with someone else.
Repeat after me; I will be a giver and I will love hopelessly.
I promise that your future and someone else will thank you.
