Unpopular opinions, as most people know, has been a trend that has surfaced on social media. People reveal their secret opinions that they believe may have a strong negative reaction from the majority of the population. Most of these unpopular opinions that surface are little things that are not really that important such as out of the ordinary food preferences or their love for the evil villain on a television show. Today, I bring my own unpopular opinion to the table.
Recently I have noticed my friend participating in "hookup culture" meaning that they avoid relationships with meaningless one nights stands, sexting with boys they don't know, and jumping from one guy to the other. Just being a witness to these decisions my friends have been making I have just noticed that my friends have been hiding hurt, guilt, sadness, and loneliness with a mask of supposed power, fun, and sexiness. "Hookup culture" is something that our world has advertised to be freeing but what it really hides is that it is the exact opposite. Here are six reasons why "hookup culture" is a waste of your time.
Reason #1: You are not just apart of someone's "experience."
Whether it's the college experience or the party experience, you are not meant to be some object in some guy's game to see how many girls he can get with. You are a valuable person who deserves to be treated like the beautiful and incredible person you are, not just some object he can only use for himself.
Reason #2: You deserve someone who really cares about you.
Like said in the reason above, you are a beautiful and incredible person. You deserve only the best for yourself. You deserved to be loved genuinely for the person you really are, the real authentic you. Do not settle for a boy who doesn't recognize that.
Reason #3: Guys who have earned nothing deserve nothing from you.
I heard this phrase first from Emily Wilson, and I think that it is absolutely perfect. You are a strong and powerful woman. Stop allowing boys who haven't earned your respect to receive something they are far from deserving.
Reason #4: There is a big difference between hookup sex and sex with someone you really care about.
Physically it is the same act, but emotionally it is completely different. When you have sex with someone who is just there for the one night stand, they don't really care about you. They care only selfishly for themselves. When you have sex with someone who is in a committed relationship with you, they care deeply for your physical and emotional well being. They aren't just looking out for themselves. They want the best for you as well as themselves.
Reason #5: There is no anxiety when you are with someone you love.
When you have sex with someone you love, you don't have to worry about a lot of things you would have to worry about when you're having a one night stand. If you are with someone who truly loves and cares about you, you won't have to worry about getting an std, if you're about to get into a bad situation, asking yourself where the relationship is heading, and the questions you ask yourself are endless. When you are with someone, you love you are focused on them, and you feel comfortable with them. There is no anxiety.
Reason #6: Real love is going to bring you real happiness and serenity.
This is the most important reason. When you find someone who really loves you, then you will be truly happy. When you hook up with someone, it may feel right at the moment but the odds are it is not going to leave you with what you really desire, true happiness and true peace. This is something you can not find in a hookup or sext. This is something you can only find in true love and sacrifice.
I know that this is an unpopular opinion, and by no means am I judging anyone who feels differently than I do about this subject. I am just putting this out there so that you might see that hookups are just honestly a waste of your time. You deserve better! You deserve love and happiness! You deserved to be with someone who cherishes you not someone who abandons you and makes you feel sad! You deserve the best for yourself, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying!
