People, including myself (especially myself), beat themselves up over something stupid they did or said all too often. Too many people live with the fear of being embarrassed in front of someone and so they don’t let their guard down. They are trying to protect themselves from doing something they might regret. I have been thinking about this a lot lately, and so what if you do something stupid and it ends up horrible? You tried, and it didn’t work out. End of story. Those regrets are the ones that are just temporary. There’s a lot of things I’ve done that I regretted as soon as I did it, but now a couple months later I realize that it ended up being for the better that I “messed up”. The real regrets are the ones where you don’t put yourself out there.
Being shy and scared of the world is not going to do you or anyone else any good. Hindsight is 20/20. It is so easy to get mad at yourself for not doing something a certain way after you see how it turned out. Dwelling on what went wrong takes up too much of your current time and you could be missing out on amazing opportunity that is literally right in front of you. You just gotta let it go. We are all people and we all make mistakes and sometimes we make mistakes that we think we can never fix, but somehow we end up just fine.
I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and when you start looking at life this way, things begin to make a lot more sense. Maybe you didn’t get into your dream school, so you chose another one but you love it more than you can ever imagine. Maybe your boyfriend dumped you and you’re heartbroken but then someone waltzes right into your life and things make sense again. Maybe you had to change your major but realized you like your new one more than your old one. Maybe you got cut by your favorite house during sorority recruitment but the house you’re in now is your whole world. When God closes one door, a window opens. When we don’t get what we originally want, we gain a new perspective on it and makes us gain a new appreciation for what we are or were trying to accomplish.
The plan that you have in your head is probably so far from what is actually going to happen. I realize that my entire life plan that I have planned perfectly on pinterest for literally ever, could very well not come true. But if it doesn’t, something else will have presented itself to me. You have to have faith that things are eventually going to work out. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but things don’t stay awful forever.
