For The High School Athletes Who Couldn't Reach The Bar

For The High School Athletes Who Couldn't Reach The Bar

I don't think I heard you correctly, let me go get my step stool...

“I’m sorry, Caitlyn, but…you didn’t make the team,” my high school volleyball coach informed me. My heart sank in my chest and I let out the breath that I had anxiously been holding in. Tears swelled in my eyes, but a smile remained on my face. They told me that the bar had been set higher for the season. I took that to mean I was too short; I was about 5'1" at the time. I thanked them for the opportunity and walked out with my head down, ashamed to look at my teammates while the tears ran down my face. As I packed up my things, several of the girls approached me and were shocked when I mumbled the news. My mother had come to pick me up and I cried the entire way home about how unfair life was.

Being cut from the team after being a starting player the previous year broke my spirits. I felt worthless and lost my confidence. Eventually the girls phased me out because I was no longer "one of them," which caused me to have even more feelings of worthlessness. How did we go from being great friends who supported each other both on and off the court to complete strangers so easily? It is actually quite sad that these friendships were solely based on if I made the team or not.

Not only did I feel abandoned by the sport and the girls, but by my school as well. Athletes were looked at in a certain light, and that light no longer shone bright for me. If I couldn't be an athlete, then I felt I had nothing and was no longer important. Luckily, I became close with another girl who was cut from the team. We were in the same sad, little boat, drifting off into despairing loneliness. Not only were we unworthy, but we became irrelevant as well. The two of us vented to each other for a couple of years about the whole situation and moved past it by joining rec teams. We made color-coded workout calendars and stuck to them. And, might I add, we were damn good players on the rec teams, all five feet of us. Don't think we didn't have to go up against the varsity adversaries who played during the off season either. It was quite satisfying when they couldn't return our serves, but we were able to pass theirs. I felt like I mattered again.

This fueled my passion to seek out the volleyball coach at CSE. I set my own bar and tried out for the college team. And guess who made it? Me. At a whopping 5'3.5". The .5 is essential! I earned my spot as an Eagle. My dedication, perseverance, and passion for the sport has helped me become a college athlete. I did not let my failure prevent me from playing ever again.Yes, I was upset and hurt by my rejection, but I learned to work harder and now here I am; I have played in eighteen matches in a total of fifty-one sets, and have earned the respect of my peers. I know my numbers will keep going up because I have coaches who care about me and who don't just brush me off because I need a step stool.

I have achieved my goal. I am an athlete. A college athlete. I made it happen. If you are someone who was cut from a team, or don't think you are good enough, don't give up. Work a little each day for your passion and for your self. High school is only four years of your life and should not define who you are. I almost let it, but found the strength to define myself.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Giannis Antetokounmpo And Christian Yelich Have Put Milwaukee Back On The Map

Two small market teams making sure the world knows who they are


"MVP" is currently being chanted around the city of Milwaukee and the people of Milwaukee aren't just talking about one person. Giannis Antetokounmpo, a forward for the Milwaukee Bucks and Christian Yelich, an outfielder for the Milwaukee Brewers. Giannis is on the path to winning this year's NBA MVP and Yelich, who happened to win the NL MVP last year, is showing no doubts on potentially becoming this year's MVP as well.

Both the Bucks and the Brewers have struggled in the past few years. The Bucks finished their 2013-2014 season with a record of 15-67. On top of that, they have been playing in the BMO Harris Bradley Center for the past couple of decades. The Bradley Center was intentionally built for hockey and not basketball so attending games for the Bucks sometimes had you in the nosebleeds barely seeing what was going on on the court. The Bucks struggled after their 2013-2014 season with records of 41-41 (2014-2015) and 33-49 (2015-2016). Now, the Bucks have recently finished their regular season and moved to the playoffs. From 15-67 just five years ago, to now 60-22 which gave them the best record in the NBA, the number one seed in the East and home-court advantage, Giannis has proved himself as potentially one of the greatest players the NBA and the Bucks franchise will ever see.

The Bucks now have a new arena that opened this season, Fiserv Forum, which is built specifically for the Bucks (and Marquette) instead of hockey. Looking back on the Bucks in their previous years compared to now, the Bucks have sold out every single game this season. Something Milwaukee never thought they would see from being a small market team. From my experience, while working for the Bucks, you can see the difference in the crowd and feel their enthusiasm and excitement radiating off of the fans. And this is all thanks to Mr. Antetokounmpo who is making his mark here in Milwaukee. Giannis has won Eastern Conference Player of the Month for October/November, December, February and March/April and even earned his spot as Eastern Conference captain for the All-Star game this year. Giannis may be considered in his prime right now, but he is only 24-years-old which means he has plenty of time to only make himself better.

The Brewers had won the NL Central Divison back in 2011 but lost to the St. Louis Cardinals in the National League Championship Series. After that, they struggled a bit and haven't won the title since until last year in 2018. He brought the Brewers to the NLCS last season, but unfortunately, they lost to the Los Angeles Dodgers. Yelich had 36 home runs last season and already has eight (as of 4/16/19) this season. He happens to be a great right fielder as well. In last night's (4/15/19) game against the Cardinals, Yelich alone scored three home runs.

Miller Park has been filling up more and more each game of Brewers fans. Being a small market team like their cross-city friends, the Bucks, bringing home an MVP title as well as a division title, it makes everyone aware of their greatness and dedication. The season may have just started back up again, but there is no doubt, if Yelich and his teammates keep playing like they are right now, they will have another shot of making it to the World Series.

Giannis Antetokounmpo and Christian Yelich have brought and will continue to bring excitement and greatness to Milwaukee which is something the city hasn't seen in a while. This era of sports will surely be remembered for a long time by the people of Milwaukee and Wisconsin.

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