The Heroism of Stay-At-Home Moms

The Heroism of Stay-At-Home Moms

Praise the strength of a woman willing to make sacrifices for her children over herself.

Although I consider myself a feminist, the new third wave of feminism has a lot of glaring issues with the movement that I cannot completely support.

A social issue the new wave of feminism discusses is the topic of women continuing to pursue their career rather than become stay-at-home mom's after having children. The fact that women used to be expected to leave their careers and stay home with the children a few short decades ago is not okay. But in today's day and age, the attitude towards women being stay-at-home moms has made a total 180. Women who express the interest in becoming stay-at-home mothers once they're older are shamed and ridiculed. They're told they're "wasting their potential," "internalizing their misogyny" and "letting the patriarchy win."

In my personal opinion, the only time the "patriarchy wins" (a buzz-phrase I try to stray from ever saying) is when women put other women down for making a personal decision just because they don't agree or understand this decision. Feminism is not criticizing women for making a healthy, personal choice that makes her happy because it doesn't fall into a certain narrative. Feminism is encouraging each other to individually make our own choices based off of the lifestyles we desire and praising each other for finding contentment and confidence in what we choose no matter what is it.

Stay-at-home mom's are portrayed as weak, as cowardly or as boring. I personally don't think there is anything more inspiring than a woman who is willing to make sacrifices to serve her children over herself. I'm not saying women who choose to pursue their career fields even after children aren't inspiring; balancing two contradicting lifestyles of raising a family and chasing dreams is very inspiring. But in my eyes, someone who was willing to drop all their ambitions to focus on giving the best possible lifestyle for their children is one of the bravest acts of a love a mother can do.

My mom worked from home up until I was twelve and my brother was fifteen. She left her teaching job to raise my brother and me and returned to teaching after we were grown. She said she had always wanted to raise her kids, and she did a great job at it too. There are good parts and bad parts of both lifestyles, but I know always having my mom around for me while I grew up really made a big difference in my life. My mom is one of the most confident, efficient, smartest and coolest women I know and I am always grateful that she was willing to give all her time to my brother and I growing up. Knowing my mom was always there to pick me up after I had a bad day was one of the best and most comforting feelings while growing up. She has always kept up on what was going on in my life, and as a result, I've never felt completely alone in any challenge or difficulty.

I personally have a lot of career goals, but I also want to give my children the same opportunity to grow up with a parent who is totally present. I'm not sure what route my life will ultimately take as I am definitely not someone who has a five-year/ten-year/twenty-year plan (or even a daily to-do list, if I'm being honest). But I just can't stand to see women be criticized for making a decision that is very difficult and very brave. I applaud any mother that sacrifices her goals because of the love she has for her children. And any real feminist would do the same.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


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10 Father's Day Quotes To Share With Your Dad

"Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad."
— Anne Geddes

Fathers are peculiar figures in our lives. They lack the frantic affection of mothers, yet display a certain tenderness of their own toward their children. They've done some crazy stunts of their own, yet fuss over their kids' tiniest mishaps. They're there for the ride of child-rearing no shorter than mothers, and yet their emotional experience isn't exactly the same.

Fathers are our parents, teachers, and providers. It only seems right to take a day out of each year to honor all that they do for us. And so in the spirit of the holiday, I've listed ten Father's Day quotes below for you to share with your own dads.

“The power of a dad in a child’s life is unmatched.” —Justin Ricklefs


It's true: a father's emotional presence in his relationship with his children can make all the difference in how the child turns out as an adult, for better or worse. A dad receives his parenting "report card," so to say, once the child reaches adulthood and either chooses to continue visiting home or stay away.

However, for a large portion of a child's youth, a dad has most of the power over his relationship with his children. The development of the relationship is entirely dependent on how he chooses to treat his children.

“It is a wise father that knows his own child.” —William Shakespeare


You can't deny this one, either. Most good fathers know their children better than they know themselves. My own dad frequently knows what I'm feeling before I do. The best fathers are tuned in to their children's emotions, and they certainly try their best to help you when problems arise.

“A father’s smile has been known to light up a child’s entire day.” —Susan Gale


Remember way back when the most exciting part of your day was when your dad came home from work? It's a magical feeling to reflect on those days and recall that the simplest things our fathers do can bring smiles to our faces. It's healthy to retain a bit of that childlike wonder as an adult, and we can't ever forget that.

“Fathers just have a way of putting everything together.” —Erika Cosby


Although it may be somewhat begrudgingly, you'll admit that you're almost never disappointed when you seek advice from your dad. Your dad is truly great at piecing together puzzles that you can't solve yourself, and you're grateful for his invaluable input. You wouldn't be where you are now if it weren't for his words.

“A father carries pictures where his money used to be.” —Steve Martin

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For the father who has what it takes to be a dad, children teach him that there's much more to life than money. Matters of the heart exceed the value of money, and wallet photographs most likely serve as a reminder of the children for whom he must provide.

After having kids, a man no longer works for his own livelihood, but for that of his own family. And for this, your father certainly deserves much more recognition than he may receive at times.

“Dad: A son’s first hero, a daughter’s first love.” —Unknown


From the moment a child sees his or her father for the first time, a heavy responsibility is placed upon his shoulders. A dad must be a role model for how his son is to behave and a standard to which a daughter sets herself to seek out a partner. Hence, a father is a son's first idol and a daughter's first love, as the saying goes.

“A father doesn’t tell you that he loves you. He shows you.” —Dimitri the Stoneheart


Oftentimes, a father uses his actions rather than his to show you that he loves you. He works to put food on the table because he loves you. He teaches you how to drive because he wants you to stay safe. He shows you how to change a tire so that you aren't stranded anywhere. Everything he does, he does with love.

“My father didn’t do anything unusual. He only did what dads are supposed to do—be there.” —Max Lucado


And what more can you ask of a good dad?

"I'll never forget how I felt at that moment. I felt that my father was a great man." —Kevin Arnold


Every child has a moment when he or she realizes that the sacrifices that a father makes are all for their children's benefit. Every child has a moment at which he or she understands that a father is only human, makes mistakes and has more aspirations than meets the eye. It's eye-opening to comprehend that our father is a normal people like you but somehow makes him all the more of an inspiration.

“A dad is someone who wants to catch you when you fall. Instead he picks you up, brushes you off and lets you try again.” —Unknown


If there's one thing your fathers teaches you, it's perseverance. And you couldn't love him more so for it.

Father's Day is one of our greatest holidays, so this father's day, remember to thank him for all he's done for you.

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