It's hard to believe I'm two weeks away from finishing my first semester of college at St. John's University! I spent the entire summer wondering and worrying about what will happen once I moved into my dorm and began the next chapter of my life. The thought of me being an adult and attending a university seemed so abstract to me. In three short months, I met a lot of people and learned many things along the way. Here's what I learned through the things I've done, as well as opportunities I've missed.
1. Everyone's experience is different.
I've spent hours upon hours looking at article and listicles on numerous websites for tips about all aspects of college. Though some may have been helpful, none will prepare you for your own personal experience in college. The people writing those articles don't know who your friends will be, who you'll live with, and who your professors are. It is up to you to navigate through it all and know how to handle people.
2. College forces you to put yourself out there.
I was hardly involved with my school's clubs and programs. I attended a few events and activities here and there, but for the most part, I would go to class, eat, then go right back to my dorm. It's SO easy to not do anything in college. This is because things are not thrown at you. If you want to participate and join something, it's all on you to get up and seek out those opportunities!
3. Checking your email is important.
I've practically been living on my email accounts since the 10th grade, so this was never an issue for me. Many colleges often send important flyers for things such as events, career opportunities, security notifications, and more. Professors may also send out assignments or revisions to some. It's super important to check your email to be in the know about what is going on around you.
4. Open communication is essential.
I personally am a non-confrontational person. I've always avoided addressing people directly, with the fear that I would be labeled as being "harsh" or a "bitch". I'm still trying to get over this, since I know how important it is to tell someone when there is a problem. From living with six other girls, I've seen how having open conversations that are respectful resolved any issues and improved the living situation for everyone. There were some things my suitemates would do that would annoy others and they had no clue until it was brought up. hat's only one example of why communication is key. Talking to your professors about grades or assignments is a good way to clarify any confusion you might've had. You never know what the other person is thinking or doing, so being straight-forward makes life easier for you and everyone else!
5. The party scene isn't as evident as you're used to seeing or hearing about.
Similar to #2, opportunities are not handed to you. In my first semester, I only went to parties that were advertised in class groups and flyers in my dorm building. I didn't go to all of them either. I'm not necessarily the type to go out every weekend, but I wish I went out more than the few times that I did. A lot of parties will not be advertised or open to anyone and everyone. You have to make a point of going and searching for them (at least on my campus). Making friends in different groups and branching out would've definitely helped me find more of the party scene I am looking for. I'm looking forward to meeting new people and exploring outside of the people in my dorm building next semester.
6. You will miss having your own room SO much.
I remember the indescribable feeling of joy I felt when I returned home from school for the first time this semester. Having my own bed that I don't have to climb up to get onto (#topbunkproblems), not having to deal with other people, and the PRIVACY! Things that were all taken for granted back in high school. Being away from home will certainly make you grateful for having your own room.
7. Everyone comes from different backgrounds.
I've made friends from all across the country, and I have classmates from all over the world. If there is one thing that I've learned from talking to different people, it's that not everyone knows or experiences what you have. Even things that may be obvious or basic knowledge to you may not be to someone else. People also come from different educational backgrounds, with some being better or worse than yours was. Coming to St. John's made me appreciate the education I got in my hometown's schools. I didn't realize how high quality all of my schools' academics and programs were. I will be eternally grateful for that.
8. College isn't so scary after all.
Before coming to school, I've always heard that college was fun, but a lot of work. Though I can't speak for everyone, I can say that my first semester was relatively easy. Maybe it was because I got lucky with my professors, my classes, or I just organized myself pretty well. But I really believe that college doesn't have to be as stressful as some people make it. There's been some nights where I stayed up late doing a last minute paper, but the days I got ahead and started early felt great. Finishing work early is the BEST feeling in the world. Having the rest of the day to relax or go to bed early is so important for your health. I was always the severe procrastinator in grade school, but when I got to college I buckled down and got shit done. Organization makes the difference between stressing and relaxing!
I'm looking forward to all the opportunities that St. John's as well as New York City will hold for me next semester. Here's to the next four months of college!
