Love is one of the best feelings you can experience in life. Love is pure, but people are not. This is where many get confused and claim that love is awful. Unless someone has left you with a sour taste in your mouth, when you think of love, you think of happiness. You think of something that makes you feel whole; something that makes everything better.

When you love someone, they’re the first person you want to share good news with and the first person you want to be hugged by when there's bad news. Your friends and family will always try to make you feel better when you’ve had a bad day, but deep down, you know you only want to hear from that one person. You're pretty much convinced that the connection the two of you share is as close to perfection on earth as you’ll ever get. It seems completely irrational until you’ve experienced it yourself. Love, however, is a pretty irrational emotion.

Contrary to wishful thinking, not all love is happy love. There exists a type of love that gives you nothing but anxiety. It’s a darker, sadder type of love.

You experience this type of love when you love someone you can’t have.

This type of love isn’t like the others. It doesn’t mean anything wonderful is coming your way, and it definitely doesn’t mean anything is going to progress in your favor. If anything, you should just go ahead and prepare yourself for clouded thoughts and sleepless nights.

Despite what any Disney princess wants you to believe, there doesn’t always have to be a happily ever after. The ideal situation would be that the person we love will love us back, do anything to be by our side, and together we would be unstoppable. We want to be there for each other's successes and we want to be the shoulder they cry on. We want them to be Saturday night drinks and Sunday morning pancakes. Literally.

Sometimes, the one you love is taken away from you suddenly and without warning. The worst situation, though, is when the one you love was never even yours in the first place.

You never even had a taste of what could be, so you shouldn’t even be upset, right? This would be the rational way of thinking. However, like I said earlier, love is never rational.

So, we live with the irrationality of the situation and we make things work until things finally catch up to us. The real world eventually sets in and the irrational vanishes into thin air.

Poof. Hello, reality.

To help you through, you seek advice and you get a variety of responses. “You should just move on,” “You should follow your heart,” or, my personal favorite, “I don’t know what to tell you.”

In all honesty, everyone’s situation is different. No one can really help you cope with a broken heart except yourself. People can try to keep you busy, but ultimately, the best way to mend a broken heart is by spending some time with yourself. Moving on to someone else is definitely out of the question because you still have tunnel vision for that one person. Acting like it never happened is also a bad choice because unless you let it run it’s course, the feelings will hit you again when you least expect it.

So, going forward, you get to know yourself better. You hope that the person who you wanted so desperately to be your future is happy. You hope that someone is treating them well, you hope that they’re doing everything they wanted to, and though it’s selfish to admit, you hope they still think of you from time to time. You patiently wait for a new love to blossom in place of the old. Everyone tells you it will happen, and it will...even if you don’t want to think of it.

The strangest part about situations like this is that even after all the heartache is over, the love is still not gone. This is a blessing and a curse. There are many people who live their entire lives loving someone so deeply, but never get the chance to actually live together.

All of this is the heartache of loving someone you can’t have.