“Clueless” has always been my favorite movie. From obsessing over young Paul Rudd, to the highway scene which terrified me and caused me to avoid driving on any highway until I was 18, to Cher’s perfect advice about dating, I could not get enough. My obsession didn’t stop there; for Halloween my sophomore year, I made my friends dress up as Dionne and Tai; and yes, I was Cher.
Joking matters aside, Cher did teach me a valuable lesson: it’s okay to be picky and not settle – especially when it comes to dating. In today’s society, there are words for women who don’t want to “put out.” Words like “prude” or “tease,” even “stuck up,” are tossed around, but women with high standards should not be criticized.
Expectations placed upon college women these days are challenging enough – we must keep up with our classes, work at least part-time, complete internships and community service, be involved with extracurriculars, and somehow manage to have a social life. Sometimes my social and dating lives take the back seat. That is okay!
Girls, you do not have to go out to the bar and sleep around with frat boys or any other random guy to prove yourself... there are reasons why random guys wouldn't and shouldn’t even make the cut.
A trend I have noticed with college guys is an obsession with blacking out. This action is seen as a goal. If I spend the night with someone, I would at least like to be remembered by the guy I wake up next to. Why is it that when men blackout, they turn it into a laughing matter? Doesn’t it concern you that there are segments of time which you completely forgot about what happened or what you did?
Dating college fraternity men is also a big-time commitment, one that parallels a job. Sorry, but I don’t know if I can show face at every one of your events. I have a life, too. I am a full-time student, I work full-time in various cities and I have an internship.
I want to make it clear, this article is not about dissing fraternity men. Many of the guys I have met through Greek Life are the nicest guys. Fraternities hold men accountable for their grades and instill a desire for philanthropic service. Organizations like Greek Life help both men and women understand that they are a part of something larger than themselves and that their actions affect an entire group. This is an important quality to carry with them in the “real world.”
Regardless of college being a time to have fun, girls – YOU CAN STILL BE PICKY! Do not think that having high standards is a negative thing. Do yourself a favor and demand more from the guys you date. You’ll both be better off in the long-run.
