Whether it's the guy you met online, the boy who moved away or the one who you just met at college, we can all agree on one thing— long distance relationships suck! I know girl, I've been there. It's not the easiest thing in the world, and it can become so frustrating. Dating someone hours and miles away can take a huge toll on the relationship itself. Although it can be down right stressful, I'm here to tell you that you can do this! Hours and miles are just numbers and this relationship is worth it.
For starters, you need to get rid of all the doubt. Doubt will honestly eat you alive and just destroy your relationship. If doubt ever creeps up on you while being in a long distance relationship, just remember the reason why you wanted to be together for starters. You wanted him because you were happy and wanted things to work out between the two of you. So lose the doubt girl!
Next, you need to trust your boyfriend. You're here and he's there, so it does sound tough, but it's a necessity. Without trust in any relationship, it will most definitely fail. Yet, we all know that trust needs to be built and earned. So make sure to make him work for your trust because it can go a long way.
You both need to be putting effort into this relationship. A relationship cannot be 40/60 nor can it be 50/50. 100/100 is needed from the two of you to make things work. Go out of your way to make his day and he should try his best to brighten yours too. Make sure to work hard to have this relationship flourish and last.
You should have time for one another and plan together. Send a good morning text, FaceTime while having lunch, call before going to bed. Distance doesn't have to lead to lack of communication. Also, make plans to see each other of course! He can come this weekend, and you go to him the next. Plan the times to go the distance with one another because it is worth it.
Last but not least, don't ever let the spark die. It can seem like it'll be an eternity until he comes to visit you, and things can seem to get boring from the distance. You can't let what you think is "boredom" interfere with your relationship. Keep things moving, learn more about each other, send photos of the beautiful things you saw throughout your day, tell each other stories! You can't let time and effort be wasted just because of a couple of miles.
I get it, long distance relationships are hard. Not being together 24/7 and enjoying each others' presence can make a girl cry her eyes out to her two new boyfriends, aka Ben & Jerry. But just remember, there is no better feeling than seeing your man after waiting for him for so long. Have faith in long distance, I promise it's worth it.
