As I watch Greek life prepare another semester of spring recruitment, I can't help but think about my sorority, Alpha Xi Delta.
Going through recruitment is nerve racking. Outfits, anxiety, "Will I get a bid?" A million thoughts go through your head as you meet all the sisters of those recruiting. When I went through fall recruitment, I realized I went in with expectations about Greek life and Alpha Xi Delta that weren't met. Here is the harsh truth about my experience with becoming an Alpha Xi Delta:
1. I was taught sisterhood and what it looks like.
Not having an actual "sister" made it hard to connect with over a hundred girls and automatically give them that name. I connected to multiple girls, whether it be over our majors, hobbies, or just experiences. I was taught sisterhood and what it looks like. From our late night food runs to sharing each other's clothing, I was taught that family doesn't have to be blood. When I needed someone, they made it clear to me that I didn't have to be scared of confiding in them, like a sister.
2. I invested my time and they invested in me.
Alpha Xi taught me that you get what you put in, and that couldn't be more correct. I went in thinking I would automatically be considered a part of something without putting work into it. I learned that it wasn't that easy, and investing yourself into this life took up a lot of time. Getting involved with Alpha Xi Delta led me to becoming a part of our philanthropy, Autism Speaks. I got back a group of wonderful ladies who helped me get involved with the community. I invested my time and they invested in me.
3. I gained personal development.
The transformation from high school to college is a struggle all in itself. I can honestly say I am nowhere close to who I was last year. Becoming a part of Alpha Xi helped me find who I am as a person and who I want to become. Being a fraternity woman is an honor to me, and it has advanced my social skills within the society we live in today. I gained personal development and Alpha Xi Delta is to thank.
4. I was expected to become a leader.
It can be difficult explaining on a job resume how you are considered a "leader". With Greek life comes leadership opportunities within the chapter. We have a structure along the lines of president, vice president, treasurer, secretary, philanthropy co-coordinator and so on. We do workshops on how to better ourselves at a more professional level. I was expected to become a leader and I plan to meet that expectation.
5. Loyalty is real and friendships can last.
The atmosphere is set up by sorority fosters, and encourages lifelong friendships that begin to form immediately. As cliche as it sounds, I have met the ladies who I want by my side as I walk down the aisle at my wedding. I have met my future roommate and room decorator. Loyalty is real and friendships can last. Alpha Xi Delta emphasizes and encourages loyalty to and among the sisterhood, my school and the nation's chapter.
The thing about sororities like Alpha Xi Delta is it's more than 300 comfort color tees and an excuse to meet boys. As you go through spring recruitment, keep an open mind about what you are about to become a part of. It wasn't what I had expected, but it was more. The harsh truth just might be the best thing that has happened to you yet.
Happy Recruiting!
TFJ
