It’s just me, myself and I… I am 19 years old, about to be a sophomore in college, and I can honestly say that I have been single most of my life. I have dated a few guys here and there, but I haven’t had a serious relationship that has lasted for more than a few months. In high school, and even now in college, I am very career-driven, and my focus has been on pursuing my degree while playing the sport that I love. Most guys that I have dated have not been able to understand that, so I have quickly let them go, and have moved on with my life. And I am extremely happy living my life the way it is right now.
Many people ask me if I’m worried I’m missing out on the whole dating experience, and my answer has always been "no". After talking to a lot of friends, I have come to realize that so many people are really worried about being single at the old age of 10 or 20. They feel like they are missing out on the excitement of dating, and I have seen many people who are very insecure about it. I have talked to girls who think that something is wrong with them because they haven’t found the right guy, and I have talked to girls who have lowered their standards because they are worried about being single for too long.
Here would be my advice to all of you girls who feel this way. First, don’t waste your life obsessing over relationships because you are going to miss out on all of the other important things in life. I hope that one day I will find my McDreamy, and marry the man of my dreams, but until then I am happy with being single. I am a firm believer that one day I will find the perfect guy who will love me for the crazy girl I am, but until that day I am not going to worry about it. Just because I turned 19 doesn’t mean that it is too late for me to find the love of my life! You never know when the perfect guy will come around, there is no magic age that you have to be married by, or even be in a serious relationship by.
Second, I would say do not compromise your wants or needs for a guy who does not meet your standards. If you want to have a one-night stand, or a friends with benefits relationship, there is nothing wrong with that if that is what you truly want. However, if you are looking for a long term relationship, don’t compromise your standards just to fill that need for a guy. You will end up feeling empty and hurt, and you will not truly be happy.
Finally, remember that you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. If you are rushing into relationships because you are insecure about yourself, that relationship is doomed to fail. If you are worried that something is wrong with you because you are not in relationship, then that is a sign that you are not happy with yourself. Life does not revolve around boys. When you are meant to be in a relationship, it will happen. We can’t rush the timing, because you just never know when you are going to meet the perfect guy. It could be tomorrow or it could be five years from now. So until then, live your life as a strong, independent woman, and when the right guy comes along you will know it. Until that point, be happy and enjoy the life you have. Make some crazy memories with your friends, work towards your goals, and never compromise who you are for a guy.
