One of the most exciting times in my sorority experience was getting my two littles. For most sorority women, big/little reveal is almost as exciting as Christmas day. When I got my first little nearly two years ago, I honestly didn't know what I was getting myself into. I knew it was my job to be her mentor, but I didn't truly grasp how important my role was until I added another little to the family. For new bigs, this new role can be super exciting, but also super overwhelming. Here are a few things you can expect once you become a big sister.
Your phone will be on 24/7.
A big's work is never done, and her phone is never turned off. You have to be ready for all the breakups, failed tests and fights with best friends, because you may be the first person your little calls when things go wrong- or even when things go right.
You might gain a new best friend. Or you might not.
Some bigs and littles are inseparable, and that's a great thing to see. Other bigs and littles don't spend every second together. That's OK too because...
Your relationship will be 100% unique.
I have two very different littles with very different needs. My first little is super independent, and we're total opposites. She doesn't turn to me for every little problem, but she knows that I will always be her biggest cheerleader in everything she does. My other little needs me to be there for every little problem in her life, and we spend a lot more time together because we have more in common. But I love both my littles the same. They just need different things, and as a big you have to be ready to work with what your little needs from you.
You'll second guess yourself.
Am I a good big? Does my little like (insert sister here) more than me? Does my little even like me? Every big has some doubts from time to time about herself, but just remember that your little chose you for a reason, and chances are she would still choose you in a heartbeat all over again.
You won't always be obsessed with your little.
Sometimes your little will make you mad or frustrate you or drive you insane. You're human, so your relationship won't always be sunshine and rainbows. You don't have to agree with every decision your little makes, but you DO have to be there to pick up the pieces when things go wrong.
Sometimes you'll want to quit.
I always tell people being a big is a full time job. Sometimes you'll want to throw in the towel. But then your little will text you to tell you how much you mean to her, and it'll all be worth it all over again.
You'll always have a new crafting project.
21st birthday paddles may have actually been the worst sorority invention ever.
You'll learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible.
Being a big is a huge leadership position. You get to be a mentor, a counselor, a friend, and an advocate all in one. I have learned so much about myself and how I handle certain situations through my littles, and I've learned a lot about life from both of them as well.
You'll have loads of fun.
Being a big is tough sometimes, but it's also a lot of fun. Being a big sister has been a blast for me. I would not trade my littles for the world, and I can't wait to see what adventures we get into in the future.
So now that you have a new addition to your greek family, enjoy her! Your little will be such an important part of your sorority experience and a wonderful addition to your family. So start bonding and get ready for all the great memories to come.
