Nowadays, It seems as though it’s a trend for people to scream that all guys are the same. All guys are "this" or all guys are "that." I get it, I’ve been there.

But spoiler alert: all guys are not the same.

Before I get too deep in this article, I want to disclaim that I am in no way trying to say that guys treating you like trash is your fault. It’s not, there’s no excuse for a guy to treat you less than your worth. I’m trying to spread awareness with this article, and help open up the eyes of ladies who deserve so much more.

First things first: personality. Personality is important. I’m going to tell you that right now, look for how he acts, speaks, etc. Yes, maybe the guy in your English class is super hot. Before you get blindsided by his big abs and blue eyes, make sure you try to read his body language carefully.

Most of the time, to be bluntly honest, the reason all guys seem to be the same is that you’re going after those same guys. You’re going after the dudes who know they’re hot and know that they can snap a finger, and get any girl they want. They know that they can make girls melt and be dumbfounded. Stop going for these types of guys. No matter how hard you try, they’re not going to be the man you hope for. They’re only going to play you and screw your emotions.

Most of the time, those guys have been around the block so much, they’ve mastered the smooth talk. They’ve learned what girls desire and what they want to hear. They’ve learned how to manipulate you into getting what they want or getting out of something so well by spilling out lie after lie. It’s a thing, trust me. This type of boy is called a f*ckboy. Girl, stay away.

Stop going for the same type of guy if each time you try, you end up in tears. It’s not fair to yourself, you deserve the world. Step out of that style and try going for the guy that dresses well, or going for the guy who’s thoughtfulness leaves you confused because he’s showing he cares. Go for the guy that SHOWS you he cares, not tells you. Actions speak louder than words, remember that ladies!

There are good guys out there, they’re not all the same. Trust me, I have one. He’s handsome, sweet, funny, and has all the qualities I love while still being an amazing man who shows his love for me in actions. Get yourself a man who makes you feel good and not constantly questioning. You got this, girl!