If you're like me, you always think about when and how something is going to happen. Whether it's tomorrow or in a few years, you've just got to know or it'll drive you crazy.
Waiting is never fun, especially when you don't know what you're waiting for. It's even harder when you want something so badly and it's right in front of you, but you just can't reach it yet. Let me ask you this: is it easier to wait on something you're trusting will be great even though you can't exactly see it yet, or settle for something that's pretty good and available for you to take right now? Obviously, the second choice is easier, but is it better? Think about that question.
You probably know where I'm headed now. If you guessed anything on the lines of relationships, dating, etc. then yup, you've got it. Now I'm no expert at relationships. To be honest, I've never even dated anyone before, but I use that to speak from a different perspective. Just because I've never dated doesn't mean I don't want to. I'd love to have a boyfriend, but I'm not just going to date the first guy I come across, and I'm definitely not going to settle.
I am 18-years-old. Practically all of my friends have been in relationships by now, and when you're the only one who hasn't, it doesn't feel too great. There have been times when I've asked, "When God? Am I even close?" It doesn't make sense, but that's how I know it makes perfect sense in God's eyes.
Proverbs 20:24 says, "Man's steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way?" See, we aren't supposed to understand God's timing. If we did, then there wouldn't be any surprises. However, God doesn't want us to stress over it, He simply wants us to trust Him.
Now back to the question I asked before... It would be a heck of a lot easier for me to settle and date out of desperation, but I don't want that. I know that God has someone for me, and I know that good things come to those who wait. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, "He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end." I think it's kind of funny that the person God has for me could literally be in a relationship right now. Like, lol you have no idea, bud. In all seriousness, though, I've decided to give up control and allow God to lead me, even when it's hard.
So, now what? Now, you seek God. "Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need" Matthew 6:33. Don't chase after a guy, chase after the Lord. The closer you draw to Him, the easier it will be to follow His directions. He promises that He will give us what (or who) we need when we seek after Him wholeheartedly.
Wait for the one who loves the Lord. Wait for the one who loves the Lord more than he loves you (that's a big one). Wait for the one who genuinely makes you happy and encourages you to be the best you can be. Wait for the one who is selfless and stays with you despite your flaws. Wait for the one who makes all the waiting worth it. Wait for the one.
And if you have gone through some relationships that just didn't work out, it's okay. There is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes God allows things not to work the way we planned in order to inch us closer to His plan.
God's timing is perfect. It might not always be ideal, but it will be worth it. So chill out, pray, and watch things fall into place.
