A house is a physical home. It has a roof, about four walls, a couple of windows, and rooms to occupy. It is built from the ground up, taking months to complete, sometimes even years. When a person moves into a new house, what do they usually do? They fill it up with color, warmth, and things that they love.
In a lot of ways, a house is a lot like a person. We decorate accordingly, and try to fill our lives with things that we love. This might have been why there is the phrase “home is where the heart is”.
Unpacking the term “home”, this can get very personal for some. Home is not always the physical standing structure. The house they lay there head most nights could be filled with violence, destruction, and sadness. It could be only temporary, only a safe place for a short amount of time, until they must leave once again. At times, a house is a structure, standing only to serve the purpose of protection against the physical elements. The emotional and spiritual battles happening, raging, the warfare, replaces house with where the coldness lies.
The heart requires nurturing, warmth, and love. Neglect, abandonment, and carelessness do not shape a soft heart. At times, those unfortunate situations can shape a person into who they want to be, being the negatives that made them into the positive they are today; or despair seeps into your core and infects the image of others, or even yourself.
A heart cannot build or rebuild on its own. The heart needs a companion, a confident, a lover, a family. Giving the heart what it wants should not be thought of a negative. Do not deny yourself the affection, love, and happiness that each and every person deserves. Do not keep yourself away, thinking you are a shabby, broken, and unlovable house. You are a deserving, kind, and worth more than words can describe. Do not hinder someone else’s happiness, show them their worth, share the love. Create a home within people, living and breathing support throughout the trails this world hurls at us.
I personally connect with all those who have a hard, almost painful experience when opening up to someone. You are bearing your internal soul, you are allowing others to see the pain and loss. It is okay. Let me say it again; it is okay. Two support beams are stronger than one. People that have hurt you are not even slightly similar the person that wants to take the pain away. Open up, allow that vulnerability.
Allow yourself to find a home for your scared heart.
So much of this world wants to rip you up, tear you down, let the winds of life blow you over. Build your support up, build a strong person. Nobody can hold the weight of their storm forever, allow others to help repair the walls, the cracks, patch up the holes. “Home is where the heart is”, please give your beautiful heart the love it deserves.
