There comes a time in everyone's life where another individual, whether it be a girlfriend/boyfriend, best friend, roommate or even a family member, does something to ruin the relationship. Indeed, every relationship we chose to have in our lives is a two way street, and no one person is ever truly at fault for the road bumps that come up in a relationship. However, sometimes what happens isn't your fault and is the fault of the other person.
Whether you had simply met them during a bad time in their lives, or have known each other for years, relationships come to an end, and it could have had nothing to do with you.
Everyone makes mistakes.
Not all mistakes are forgivable. Yet, you for some reason decided to forgive those who wronged you in a way. You keep waiting for someone to ask you 'Why?', living each day feeling like you've done something wrong by societies expectations but your heart keeps telling you that you've made the right choice.
Why am I doing this?
Why am I allowing this person back into my life after what they did?
If I was really okay with what happened, I wouldn't have cut all ties with them.
With dozens of thoughts running through your head while constantly questioning yourself, it makes it even harder to try and forget what happened between you two. Once you forget the event that happened, forgetting the sadness, emptiness and other feelings that came from it is even harder. What no one tells you is that you never truly forget, and that either the feelings you experienced or the reason behind the crumbling of a once strong relationship never disappear. Sometimes both linger with you.
The difference between you and someone else who had a relationship end in their lives, is that they no longer have any contact with the other individual and with time they forget what happened. However, if you were to bring it up or if they were to come in contact with those who hurt them, all those thoughts and feelings would come rushing back.
“Those awful things are survivable, because we are as indestructible as we believe ourselves to be... Like all energy, we can only change shapes and sizes and manifestations.” —Miles Halter (Green, p.220)
You on the other hand decided to look past their mistakes and take them back into your life. Whether or not that was the right decision, that's for you to decide. Giving the individual a second chance may even lead to a stronger relationship.
Just always remember to follow your heart and do what makes you happy. Live life for yourself, and be cautious with who you let into it. The first time is a mistake, but the second time is a choice.
