It could be that you’re just awkward or can’t flirt in general. Personally, it’s only around people that I’m interested in that I can’t seem to play it cool. If you’re like me, you’ll totally understand. Here are five things only the girls who are far, far too awkward to flirt with their crush will understand.

1. You try to joke but it’s really just lame

Like, you’re trying to be ~cool~ and joke around but it kind of comes out as just an awkward attempt to fit yourself into the conversation.

2. You can’t tell if they’re flirting back or not

It has to be pretty obvious for me to pick up on boy’s signals. Maybe they’re bad at flirting or it’s just me, I don’t know.

3. What do you do with your hands?!

No, seriously. Keeping them by your side seems weird. Crossing your arms is a no-go. Putting your hand on his arms is ~flirty~, but you can’t keep it there the whole conversation. I need something to hold in my hand otherwise it gets weird.

4. Eye contact... what is that

Do you stare at their eyes the whole time? Uncomfortable. Do you wander them around? They might think you’re not listening. I think there’s a fine line between too much eye contact and not enough, but how do you know?

5. How do you even start a conversation to start this so-called flirting?

It is so unbelievably uncomfortable to go up to a boy you have a crush on and strike up a conversation. What do you say to begin with? The weather? I think my mind goes a little blank if I’m left alone to try and wade my way through terrible awkwardness.