The 6 Certain Struggles Of Every Girlfriend

The 6 Certain Struggles Of Every Girlfriend

The struggles sometimes seem endless, but at the end of the day, it is all worth it.

Lately, in the midst of washing my boyfriend's heavily, grease-stained work clothes (he's a welder), I have begun to wonder if the struggles I happily face being a girlfriend are shared by my fellow women. Am I the only one that reluctantly picks up clothes off the floor sitting two feet from the dirty clothes basket? Am I the only one that gets frustrated when it takes a whole argument for my boyfriend to finally tell me what's been bothering him, and get him to talk about his feelings? It can't be so. I have a feeling that most any woman with a significant other can agree.


Such a simple, yet annoying task that seems to blow the minds of most of the male species. Every aspect of this process is foreign to my boyfriend. The clothes never make it to the dirty clothes basket. He wouldn't even know how to properly start the washing machine. "You mean, you're supposed to separate colored clothes from whites?" Folding a pair of pants is harder than fixing the engine of a car, for crying out loud.


I don't know if everyone's boyfriend/husband has the appetite of an entire NFL football team, but mine does. The first question I am usually asked in the afternoons, after a kiss, of course, is "what's for dinner?" And midnight snacks? I mean, getting woken up to a cute pouty face asking for ice cream is always hard to say no to.


My boyfriend will cause 10 arguments, a tornado, hurricane and a full on war before he will talk about his feelings and tell me what is bothering him. It is usually something that is an easy fix, or that he usually feels better about after he talks it out. But getting to that point? Pure.. well you know what.

Stealing the covers.

Okay, so I know some girls are bad about this, but my word. I wake up with a corner of the sheet more nights than not. I sleep with extra blankets on the bed for backup. And believe it or not, sometimes he takes those too.

Leaving hair in the sink/shower when he shaves.

I am not quite sure why this brings out a mini demon in me, but it does. Oh, and using my razor at times? Another way to drive me insane. I just don't understand how I can shave my legs every day without a trace, and he can't shave his face without leaving the scene of a murder.

Being stubborn.

I will admit, I am pretty stubborn myself, but he wins this category for sure. He just has to be right. And if I show him an easier way to do things? Not gonna happen unless it's his idea or his way. I thought little kids could be hard-headed, but boy he never outgrew it.

Sure there are plenty more struggles I endure every day, but it is more than worth it. He has plenty of bad habits he has to put up with me too. It is just part of being in a relationship. And what we go through, is part of being a woman. God made Eve for Adam, and it's a good thing he did because I have a feeling if women didn't exist, sure men would get stuff done, but they'd fall apart without us.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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I'm Not Feelin' 22, But I'll Make The Most Of It

The reality of becoming another year older and the stress that it may bring.


Birthdays are all about being the center of attention, - birthday wishes from friends and family, and celebrating another milestone in your life. People go out of their way to buy party favors, set up parties, and buy gifts just to make someone feel special on their birthday. However, some people dread their special day because of anxiety and depression. This past weekend was my 22ndbirthday, and although I'm usually excited for my birthday, this was the birthday I had been dreading.

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While you may catch the birthday blues at some point in your lifetime, there are ways to change your attitude on the day. You may hear from someone from the past wishing you a happy birthday that can make you smile, or receive a gift from a family or friend that you had your eye on in the store and they knew you had to have it. Don't compare yourself to others when it comes to birthday plans, live the day how you would like and spend it with the people that matter most to you.

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