Hey,
Let me guess, so many of your thoughts revolved, or still revolve, around this person. They were all you wanted. The only person you want to talk to, and sometimes, you become blind to the rest of the world because of him.
I feel your pain, I seriously do. I’ve been there and well, to state the obvious, it stinks. It takes a really long time to process why the person who made you so happy suddenly doesn’t want to stick around anymore. It takes a strong heart to remove the memories and the love you had (or still have) for them. It takes a carefree mind to erase away the memories of why you thought they were ‘the one.’ Do not drown yourself in your memories and sadness for too long, because you’ll never be able to see all the good that is right in front of you.
If one thing’s true, it’s that even though someone made you lose hope and trust in love or even a relationship, the same loss can also help you gain hope and trust in the person who matters most: yourself. And that, honey, is worth way more than any relationship.
It’s called a breakup for a reason, so break away for a while. Everyone needs to go through something in life that changes them forever. For you, this was at the expense of love, but you should be glad it was. A breakup is the best way to develop yourself into who you’re truly meant to be. It's a form of change that shows you who you're meant to be, with or without this person. It brings out the depths of your heart, it reminds you what you deserve and what you long for, and more importantly, it helps you realize how badly you yearn for genuine love (and not because you’re desperate, but because it’s the greatest feeling a person could ever experience.)
When it all went down, you probably wanted to change his (or her) ways. Some of your days and nights were probably easier than others, but all the while, you must remember that God’s plan is going to be bigger and better than what you wanted. So you must move on.
With that, say thank you: thank him (or her) for being the great person he was when you needed him to be. Thank him for treating you the way he did, and putting that smile on your face during your time together. Thank him for getting you through certain milestones of your life. Without those memories and feelings, you wouldn’t know how capable you are of caring so much for someone, nor would you know how much you truly care about love. Don't hate on him, try to get back at him, play the "feel bad for me" card, or try to change his mind. You both have better coming your way, and if you try to change his mind for too long, you just might miss the person you're truly meant to be.
They were the one who awakened the love inside you, and even though they stopped pursuing, you will now know who you want to be and what kind of partner you truly deserve. Rejection brought you to the person you needed to give your life to; you, because you are unbreakable.
You long for love. Man, oh man, I know; you long for a love that blows any past love out of the water, so never settle. One day, someone will come along, and they're not going to need to fix you or anything about you, because you're already going to be the woman (or man) they need. This person may not come today, tomorrow, or next year, but they're out there, preparing for you.
They will love you in such an incredible, indescribable way. Truthfully, you’ll only be able to appreciate it because of the lesson they taught you. So this one goes out to you; become the best version of yourself, and your happily ever after will gracefully fall into place.
Sincerely,
A Friend Who Has Been There
