I was never the girl who got the guy. I was a different girl.

Growing up, I was the fat girl. I was the girl that was always making people laugh, the girl that everyone was friends with, the fit girl that was in two varsity sports, and the girl that was actively involved in probably too many extra-curricular activities. In high school, it was fun being so busy but even with all the things that I was, I still couldn’t help but notice what I was not. Even in college, I realize I am not alone in this struggle, but I still cannot help but feel overwhelmed by it.

I'm 20 years old and have never been asked to homecoming or to the prom, and have had the saddest history of "successful" relationships. But I do not feel sorry for myself, nor do I want anyone to feel sorry for me.

While of course there are times when I may feel overwhelmed or saddened for a moment, I have learned not to allow these emotions to control me. Some days will always be better than others, but from the good days and the bad, I have learned many great things.

First, I have learned that whether or not I have a guy in my life, I am worthy of love. It is so easy to turn on ourselves when we are feeling low, especially when it involves the guys in our lives. Too many times do I find myself looking at seemingly happy couples walking down the street and immediately questioning myself. Questioning why I don't have that or more often what I did wrong in my life or in past relationships that have put me in the position to be on the outside looking in. This self-destructive outlook can disguise itself as one of curiosity, which almost immediately turns into a negative questioning attack of ourselves and our own self-worth.

The moment we begin to blame ourselves for the reasoning behind our current situation is the moment that we begin to lose this battle against ourselves and society. Thanks to society and media, this is increasingly hard to escape.

With the ideals being imposed on us almost every day to be in a relationship or for those in relationships to strive to be "#RelationshipGoals" it can be hard to even have space to breath. We are constantly being reminded of what we should do or shouldn’t do. And this pressure can cause us to turn on ourselves. We become our own worst enemy and never has a statement been truer. This phrase can be applied to pretty much any aspect of life, but in this case, it is everything.

Ultimately, I do not regret being the girl that never got the guy. It has taught me to never rely on a guy or a current relationship for happiness, how to be proud of who I am and confident in the skin I am in. I also do not regret my current status as the single friend because being the one on the outside looking in really is not all that bad. Seeing relationships both flourish and flounder, there is a lot you can learn that you might miss from analyzing your old relationships. Another bonus is that I don’t have to deal with half of the drama! The right person will come along, and when he does it will be amazing.

But for now, I am enough. I have family and friends that love me and make me happy and that is enough.