To The Best Friend That Showed Me What True Friendship Is

To The Best Friend That Showed Me What True Friendship Is

I am eternally grateful for you.
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When we met, I was going through a hard time in my life. Heartbreak, shitty friends, low self-esteem- I was just a mess. I felt like I was too broken to ever be repaired again. You saw me as a diamond in the rough, and through your friendship, you helped make me like new again.

You were the first person I had ever met that truly understood the darker side of me and didn't run away from my not-so-pretty qualities. The ghosts of my past that I was still so haunted by at the time, you helped scare away, even in the ugliness of it all. You didn't shame me for my tendency to isolate myself and flake out on plans if I got too anxious, for the days I would just lay in my bed for hours. You weren't angry with me when life just got too hard for me. You didn't force me to come out of my cave. You said "I will wait. I will be here when you are ready." And you were there every time. Still, to this day, you have never, ever made me feel bad for my anxiety or depression getting the best of me. You aren't disappointed. You accept me and my flaws. You accept that I can't always face my demons- you face them with me, head on.

You encourage me to grow. You give me a little tough love when I need it- you know when I need the push- to stay on track with school, to do things that make me happy and feel good about myself, to give myself a break. That's why you will always be my number one gym buddy and study partner, the first person to like my selfies, and the first one to congratulate me when I am doing well. Whether it be a test grade or an outfit I feel particularly good in, you are right there to celebrate with me. I will never have to worry that you will be secretly wishing for my failure. I know that when I am happy, you are happy too.

You taught me that friendship is never a one-way street. You're never petty, you're never cruel. You are supportive, accepting, and understanding. At the end of the day, you have never let a boy of the moment become more important than our friendship. You have never hurt me intentionally and you never will, because as you have taught me, best friends don't do that. You taught me that a friendship isn't supposed to be toxic and it definitely isn't supposed to make me question my own worth. Through your friendship, you have taught me how to trust again and to love myself, and for that, I am eternally grateful.

Love you forever.

xoxo


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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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To My Best Friend Of 15 Years

You are my person.

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To my person,

I will never forget the first day that we met. It was the first day of preschool and my mom had just dropped me off. As I started to walk into the classroom I noticed that you were sitting alone on the floor crying. Not sure what to do, I went over to you and asked if you wanted to go play. Your face immediately lit up as we walked into the classroom and in that moment I knew that you would become my best friend. Ever since that day we've been attached by the hip and I wouldn't want it any other way.

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April Roberson

Our friendship has been a lifetime of happiness with a little bit of spunk. Not only do you encourage my crazy adventures, but you're always right by my side for each one. You keep life exciting and you make it easy. You are a true gift from God and I feel completely indebted to you for the role that you've played in my life. Our friendship is so special because it's full of our tremendous amounts of giving, sharing, and most importantly, love. There's not a day that goes by when I don't feel overwhelmingly thankful to have you by my side doing life with me.

So thank you, to my person. Thank you for always showing up for every little thing and making life so much better. Thank you for being my adventure inspiration and my lifelong travel buddy. Thank you for loving me unconditionally through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lastly, thank you for being the one person that I can forever count on in this life time. I love you with my whole heart and I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else. You are my person.

Love,

Me

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