Self-Love Actions

7 Self-Love Actions That Don't Require You To Spend Money

Self-love is not about the money you spend, but about the time you invest towards your best self.


Social media portrays self-love as a "treat yourself" motto. I scroll through my Instagram timeline and see the hashtags #selflove or #treatyourself associated with various pictures of friends splurging on material items. While I do support the occasional retail therapy, I believe that a valid sense of self-worth entails actually loving yourself enough to understand what it is that you deserve emotionally.

I believe that self-love should be reinforced daily since it is reflected in your relationships, friendships, and overall decision-making. Your self-love should not be based on expensive materialistic assets. Therefore, your self-love should not depreciate if you can't splurge on the intriguing new iPhone XR, designer handbag, or other pricey material possessions.

Here are seven satisfying and budget-friendly actions to develop your self-love!

1. Hold standards for yourself.

I've never understood the adage "keep your friends close and your enemies closer." Truthfully, engaging with people that you know are not good for you is a depreciation of your self-love. Protect yourself and your happiness. Keep ambitious, happy people who are supportive of your best self close and the toxic people who drag you down at a distance.

2. Make time for yourself.


Understand that, like coffee or tea kettles, you cannot pour from an empty cup. I'm sure you've heard this self-love tip plenty of times before but, if you're like me, you won't get it done unless it's written on your agenda. So, actually schedule time for yourself to relax. Whether it's taking a bubble bath, lighting your favorite candle, or journaling, do the little things that make you happy. This is the time where you get to take care of you and only you.

3. Engage in opportunities to develop yourself.  

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Make time to not only relax, but to also develop yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally. It isn't a coincidence that people high in self-love often make their health a priority. Establishing healthy habits like exercise and good nutrition helps you feel and look better!

4. Ensure your actions speak louder than your words.

Tom Parsons

I'm the type of person that believes in letting my actions do the talking. If you're going to talk the talk, you also have to walk the walk. Let your self-love shine through your decision-making.

For example, if you are striving to boost your self-love, don't engage with the destructive activities, people, or habits that tore you down in the past. If you want your life to change, you have to do something different. Be strong, move forward, and let go of anything that confines your happiness.

5. Practice forgiveness .

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If you're like me, you find it easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself. I've always been my biggest critic but I (finally) fired myself from that awful 10-year employment. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made - after all, mistakes are only lessons in disguise.

6. Live intentionally. 

Jim Rohn

My motto is to simply be 1% better every day. Commit to building habits that your future self will thank you for.

7. Have body-positivity. 

Taylor Smith

This goes hand in hand with tip number 3. Appreciate your journey towards a stronger, happier, more confident version of yourself. Do your best to appreciate your body and progress at every stage. Since this is your journey, your opinion is all that matters.

Healthy self-love is developed by honoring your integrity and staying true to yourself. Implement these 7 actions into your day and you'll begin to notice how a positive relationship with yourself can change the course of your self-esteem, attitude, and, eventually, your life.

In summary: Be your biggest fan!

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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You May Be In College, But Positive Reinforcement Is Still Essential For A Better Life

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence.


Being a freshman in college is tough, and I'm absolutely positive that I'm not the first person to say that. For me, the biggest adjustments came with being far from home, having to make brand new friends, and actually figuring out what I want to do with my life. Now, those first two items were not that difficult to find solutions to, but that last one? That is a completely different story.

In the span of six-seven months, I have gone back and forth, again and again with just about every combination of majors and minors that you could think of. At this moment, I think I've finally found a combination that will truly push me to succeed in my goals. By the end of next semester, I'm hopeful that I will be able to declare my major and minors.

But, the point of this article is to share the point in this current semester, where I really believed that my goals can become a reality. Right now, I am enrolled in a course called "introduction to critical intelligence studies." After much debate with the class, our professor decided to put our midterm online, making it a take-home exam. It consisted of a few multiple choice questions and three essays of our choosing. With the idea that this exam was take-home, I knew that my professor would be expecting us to put our best foot forward and all of our time and effort into making sure we did well.

And I did. This was the first midterm result that I got back and it was a 100. How did I find this out? For one day, instead of class, my professor met with each of us individually for at least ten minutes to discuss what we were hoping to get out of this class. It was during this meeting that she told me my grades and more.

My professor had explained to me that based on my writing, she did not think that I was just a mere freshman. She continued to say that I have a knack for analysis, as well as the fact that it was truly evident that I took in all the information from her lectures and the assigned readings. With my grades in mind and what I hoped to do in the future, my professor assured me that I should have no problem accomplishing my goals. My professor made sure that I had confidence in myself and my abilities, providing me with even more steps that would lead to success.

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence. This reinforcement has provided me with the means and opportunity to further push myself. Since this meeting, I have been in constant contact with my professor to learn about different opportunities that can build up my resume. With her help, as well as the director of the program, I've been able to learn more about anything and everything that has to do with intelligence.

I'm proud to say that I want to go into such a field. And I'm also proud to say that I'm thankful for everyone who has decided to push me and not only celebrate my successes — but also to help me learn from my mistakes.

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