Being cheated on is like swallowing a nail and being forced to taste your own blood as it slices through you, forcing the emotions to drip from your mouth, nose and eyes, making the pain so, so real.
When the person you love abandons you and betrays your trust in the worst possible way, you finally understand what all those sad breakup songs are about. You finally comprehend the heart’s ability to produce physical pain from emotional destruction.
Time will, fortunately, heal this unfathomable wound, but unfortunately, the scar will never fade. Heartbreak has a magical way of mending your shattered emotions, sewing the pieces back together one slate at a time.
Being cheated on is probably the most spine-twisting, gut-wrenching pain you will ever experience. But just like any tragedy in life, there are valuable lessons to be learned from it. Although, it is one of the hardest ways to learn life’s most important lessons, it will force you to grow faster and stronger than most people around you.
1. You will finally understand the age-old idea that actions speak louder than words.
Being cheated on will open your eyes to the fact that people lie. People deceive. People cheat. Someone can tell you they love you over and over again, but their actions will speak miles farther than their words ever will. Making a decision on whom to trust based on actions rather than words will save you a lot of grief and heartache.
2. Sometimes we need to experience tragedy to realize what’s best for us.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of romance. We want nothing more than to believe the person we are with is the perfect human, but being cheated on is a much-needed wake-up call. It’s so hard to get out of a relationship you are so wrapped up in and sometimes, being cheated on is the only way fate could allow you to get out. The relationship might not have ended any other way, and although this is a tough way to break ties, it’s probably for the best. Even if you couldn’t see the flaws in the relationship or refused to do anything to fix them, fate has a way of forcing you to open your eyes and realize this person isn’t right for you.
3. It will give you time to understand that you have to love yourself before you can love another person.
Once you’ve experienced what it is like to be cheated on, you realize how much pain someone can inflict on you. This will teach you to not be so dependent on another person for happiness. It will teach you to rely on yourself and spend time with yourself rather than devoting all of your time to someone else. There’s no way you can get over any tragedy in your life if you can’t fall back on the love and respect you have for yourself. We need ourselves more than we need anyone else, and being cheated on has its own twisted way of showing us that.
4. It forces you to realize your heart shouldn’t be a free and easy entrance.
Not being vulnerable is a good thing sometimes. People have the power to hurt you, and they will, unfortunately. But they can’t pull the trigger unless you give them the gun. It’s important to be in control of whom you share your love with, which is why it is so imperative that your love and trust are earned, not given. If someone can break down your walls and show you how much they care about you and how much they want to be let in to share their emotions with you (beyond the implications of sex), then perhaps you can give this person a chance if they can prove how badly they want it.
Nothing is forever, not even your pain. Even though you might feel like your life will never be the same, time will heal this wound and you will get over it, as hard as that idea may be to grapple with.
