Growing up in a small midwestern town, I grew up with strong values and understood early on to be wary of boys and their questionable intentions. Vowing to never have sex until marriage in this day in age became less and less of a reality as high school went on. Unfortunately, this seems to be a common issue for most millennials, so it doesn’t come as a surprise that I am no longer a virgin. SORRY adults reading this...
TMI
NOW LET ME EXPLAIN
Going off to college freshman year was a huge hurdle in itself. Not knowing who exactly to turn to was not the easiest obstacle to overcome. Going from being in a committed relationship with my now ex, for the majority of my Senior year, was heartbreaking when it finally fell apart during the fall of freshman year of college. Now don’t get me wrong distance CAN work. Just both parties need to be as committed and willing to make sacrifices. We, however, were not ready to take that step in our relationship.
I WAS DEVASTATED
I turned to my close friends at the time craving advice. I was basically desperate... I needed something to get my mind off of my ex. Now one would think that being in a major city like Chicago, it would be easy to find gentlemen with good values, who was handsome, came from money, was funny, was athletic, not too short, wasn't a player and occasionally did nice things for you. Unfortunately, that is not a reality for most Chicagoans. According to Nbcchicago.com, Chicago is one of the WORST cities in America to be single.
They got 18th place out of 132 major U.S cities to be exact. Why you may ask? Probably because people are so stuck in their ways here and everything is so damn expensive that too many it’s simply not worth it. I mean I am no scientist by any means but that is the conclusion I’ve drawn from living here for over a year.
Constantly bitching about my situation my roommate finally shut me up by convincing me to get a Tinder. At first, I thought absolutely not. How CREEPY. But little did I know, I would end up finding the love of my life on this promiscuous site. After first downloading the app I had an overwhelming amount of matches and connections with attractive guys who had aspirations and seemed to be down to earth. I was surprised but still quite apprehensive at the whole idea but nevertheless, I gave it a try for a while and went on a few dates and realized they were all complete duds.
GETTING TO THE GOOD STUFF
When I started to get sick of Tinder and having sometimes creepy guys hit on me I thought enough was enough. I took a break from it and that is when a stranger popped up in my follower requests on Instagram. Who knew 6 months later he’d be my boyfriend and the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
FOR THE OLD FARTS
For those who don’t understand Tinder, it can connect to your other social media platforms which allow people you match with to view them. Mine was connected to my Instagram and Nick followed me through that medium. I was used to having creepy old men follow me and slide into my DM’s but this time it was different. I examined this new follower request and to my surprise, it was the most handsome guy I had ever seen. For days I kept tabs on his profile, curious what he was like and if he was even real. After posting countless #SB2k16 pics I began to notice a commonality which was that every picture I posted this same handsome guy kept liking and finally commenting "you’re gorgeous.”
I took it upon myself to slide into HIS DM’s. Am I right? How crazy am I!? We talked for a while which turned into a FaceTime chat which turned into a first date. I was ecstatic and if you know my boyfriend you know he is too good to be true. He is probably the most perfect human being so you can imagine my apprehension upon meeting this Adonis. (LOL)
THE MAGICAL FIRST DATE
Our first date we went to a place in downtown Chicago called “Dick’s Last Resort” which if you know what that is you are probably thinking WHAT KIND OF FIRST DATE IS THAT?! The servers there are rude and will say whatever the F**K they want (on purpose of course). It would’ve been awkward with anyone else but I was with #dreamboy. We had such a good time and I felt so at ease that I told him right then and there on a bridge in Chicago to kiss me. Yup. I am THAT kind of girl and ever since that kiss he has been my best friend, soulmate and the love of my life.
TO THE TINDER HATERS
Love is out there. It is 2016 for crying out loud! Whether it be in a bar, at a grocery store, on Facebook, on twitter, what have you, you are considered extremely lucky to find love wherever you can nowadays. Love has been so abused in the last decade or so that it’s about damn time people take whatever actions deemed necessary to find the one that they want to spend the rest of their life with.
DREAM BOYS ARE OUT THERE
(even on Tinder)
