Be The Best You You Can Be, You!

Be The Best You You Can Be, You!

A brief guide to self-improvement

I am an amazing person. If you don't believe me, I can provide you with a long list of references, all of whom are real people and not several different Facebook profiles that I made.

Because of my unending compassion and effortlessly smooth skin, I am always approached by people on the street who ask me "Andrew, how do I be the best me I can be?™" And I laugh and laugh and gently explain to them that if they want my advice they'll have to buy my book because I'm not running a charity and being the best me I can be is expensive.

But since you're taking the time to read this, I'll gladly share a few helpful hints from my semi-written, unpublished self-help book "Be the Best You You Can Be: A Comprehensive Guide to Finding Your Inner Light and Blinding Others With It™"

9. Laugh often!

Shakespeare once wrote that "all the world's a stage" and it's up to you to decide whether you want it to be a comedy or a drama. In my two decades of life, I've found that nothing is as funny as others' misfortune! If you see an elderly woman struggling to open a door, or a couple breaking up in a public setting, it is perfectly acceptable, and highly encouraged to laugh.

Laughter helps you live longer, and though it may give you wrinkles, you'll really appreciate those extra few minutes on your deathbed to tell your family various ways which they can improve themselves, which leads me to my next point.

8. Give unconditionally!

Not material goods, obviously, because then you would have less of what you have now, but of the things money can't buy.

Like criticism!

I often criticize my friends and family so that they can be the best thems they can be™, and while it may not always be welcomed with open arms ("Why are you always so mean?" - my mother), they know it's for their own good and that I'm only trying to help.

A smile and a constructive word coss nothing but it will make you feel so much better for having improved the lives of the less fortunate (anybody who isn't me)!

7. Practice good mental health!

With the world becoming so fast-paced, it's often hard to take time to practice good mental and physical health.

Whenever you find yourself feeling stressed to the breaking point, explain to your loved ones that you need some time to yourself to fulfill your needs. Take up a hobby, find a new favorite bar, read a book, do something to find balance in your life. Consider taking a small trip somewhere with a warm climate and good food, like the lovely beaches of Mexico, which brings me to my next point.

6. Practice good physical health!

Stress can affect us all physically, too. If you find the strain getting to you, start sleeping more, or failing that, just eat more fruit, leafy greens, and something called quinoa.

If, after making the necessary changes, you still feel sluggish and under the weather, here is a comprehensive list of plastic surgeons in Tijuana to ensure that you're in peak physical condition (without breaking the bank!), because when you look good, you feel good!

5. Don't "stay too long at the fair"!

Many times, people refuse to let go of a good thing because of the joy and security it brings. Relationships, addictions, possessions, many of us don't want to admit to ourselves that it's time to say goodbye to something or someone we hold dear. But from time to time, you'll have to cut people out of your life who aren't beneficial to you or the goals you've set for yourself.

Conversely, sometimes it's fun to test a loved one's loyalty. Choose one friend at random and cut off all contact with them immediately. Then see how long it takes for them to beg for forgiveness. If they seem truly repentant, then they passed the Friendship Test™ and they deserve your love!

4. Confidence is key!

When you walk into a room, you should be able to draw attention without having to say a word. Maintain good posture, make direct eye contact, and be greeted, do not greet. If you exude confidence, then others will pick up on it and be naturally drawn to you.

Take it a step further! Walk into every room with the mentality that you are inherently better than everyone else and they're lucky to be within a mile of you!

Take it another step further and actually live your life by that mentality! Treat everyone around you like an unpaid intern. Make a commanding presence your trademark and the world will love you for it.

3. Dress for success!

Neutrals and earth tones are fine for the office, but your everyday attire should be as exciting and colorful as the personality that you'll have after finishing this list. Go for colors that the more conservative crowd would call "tacky" or "cheap" or "inappropriate for a funeral." Don't be afraid to borrow some inspiration from nature, either.

Like the mandarinfish!

Or the peacock!

Or Liberace!

2. Be open-minded!

While it is undeniably important that all of us understand our limits, too many times we wake up to find that we're stuck in a rut. It's extremely important to maintain a sense of adventure and a willingness to try new things.

The summer after my freshman year, I shocked everyone by signing up to spend three weeks in India. I deliberately sought adventure and I was rewarded in ways I couldn't even imagine. On one particular leg of the journey, we stopped at a quaint roadside inn for tea. I've always had a weak stomach and so I needed something more substantial than tea for the long bus ride through the desert, and I luckily found the hotel bar. After a few drinks, being the adventurer that I am, I ordered some food from this hotel bar in rural India. It was delicious and I recovered in just three short days, all because I answered "yes!" to the exciting call of life!

Adventure is out there, you just have to find it!

1. Be competitive!

Healthy competition is the spice of life. It causes people to achieve their full potential. It's also a sad but true fact that someone will always be better than you. When faced with unbeatable competition, you have three choices:

1. Bow out gracefully

2. Try harder (and still probably wind up in second place)!

3. Spread vicious rumors about the other person until they're too ashamed to show their face in public.

Since this is on the record, you should never lie, especially if it will ruin somebody else's chances of success over your own. It's better to try your hardest and fail than it is to win with deception, because even if you achieve all of your goals by lying and cheating and cutting brake lines, it will be a hollow and meaningless victory.

My life is still a work in progress, but only because I'm still so young and innocent, naive to the ways of the world. However, I honestly believe, because of step #4, that my approach to life is the correct one, and while there are many paths to choose from, my book only costs $19.95 and will improve your life a lot more than anything written by Joel Osteen. Good luck, and Enjoy the New You!™

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11 Ways You Found The Cristina To Your Meredith

"We're friends, real friends, and that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally decide to look back, I'll still be here."

The term "my person" describes the relationship between two people who have reached the highest level of friendship. They're people who have ridden the roller coaster of life together for so long that their lives would be boring without each other. In "Grey's Anatomy," the characters of Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang describe each other as each other's "person." They have a perfect friendship. Everyone (including myself) strives to achieve a friendship like theirs. What is it like to have "your person?"

1. Your person will tell it like it is.

If you think that your new haircut looks bad or if that dress makes you look fat, your person is always there to reassure you that nobody cares.

2. Your person is always on your team.

Whether it's an argument between you and your parents or you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, your person will always be there. They will go to bat for you 10/10 times and they will always be there to have your back.

3. Your person will celebrate the small victories with you.

Did you go an entire day without crying? Awesome, let's celebrate! Did you eat something other than chocolate chip cookies for breakfast? That's wonderful! The small victories count the most.

4. They will listen to you, even when you are ranting about the craziest things.

Let's face it, we have all been there. When it's late at night and we're laying in bed, thinking of the world's hardest questions, and you start to think about crazy scenarios, your person is always there to listen.

5. People instantly think that you and your person are a couple.

You aren't a couple, you just understand each other on a much higher level, so people think that you guys are in a relationship. Just go with it.

6. Your person isn't afraid to tell you that they are embarrassed by you.

Everyone gets embarrassed about each other at one point or another. Most people just pretend that it doesn't happen. Your person is going to flat out tell you that your actions and the things that you say embarrass the crap out of them.

7. Your person isn't afraid to knock you down a few notches.

Just when you think that you are on top of the world, your person will come and pop the growing balloon known as your head. They aren't afraid to snap you back into reality.

8. They will build you up faster than they will tear you down.

Yes, they will bring you back to reality and tell you like it is, but they will also be the first one to encourage you and to tell you how wonderful you are.

9. Your person is not afraid to call your bluff.

They will call you out on your BS and make you tell them how you really feel, so they can help fix you.

10. You stick together no matter what.

Even though you get mad at each other, or don't speak for a few days, you will always stick together.

11. In the end, no matter what, no matter who comes in and out of your life, your person will always be your person.

Your person is there no matter what. They care when no one else does and they are always there to hold your hand.

Find your person and never let them go. They are your best friend, your worst enemy, and your biggest critic, but they know you better than you know yourself sometimes.

As for my "person," you know who you are. I love you and couldn't do life without you.

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Blood Doesn't Determine Family

Blended families are just as much of a family as a traditional one.


If you look above, you can see that have a very large family on my mother's side. Between my grandparents, aunts and uncle, cousins and my own immediate family, we're at thirty-three members and counting. All branches of our family tree have busy lives, so we don't get to see each other as much as often as we would hope to. Christmas is the one time a year where we all finally get together for the evening. If you sat in on our holiday party, you may think that we have a couple screws loose, but there is no doubt that you would be able to feel the love radiating from room to room.

If you look at the picture I chose for my header, you can see all of the cousins gathered for our yearly picture. Dysfunctional, of course, but you can tell that love is there. Would it surprise you that out of our entire huge family, less than half of us are blood-related?

I come from a blended family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Blood does not determine family to us. Love does.

Divorce can be a messy thing, especially when children are involved. Both my aunt and uncle had remarried into relationships that already had children. For the most part, none of us can really ever remember a time when we weren't considered family. We don't ever look at each other as not being related. We never will. Family to us is the love and support that is shared unconditionally between us.

As I said, you would never be able to tell we weren't blood-related unless I told you. Not only do we all look similar to one another (which again is odd, because if the marriages had never taken place, we would just have a ton of doppelgangers running around), but the love and passion that we radiate is unmistakable that we have a bond that will never be broken, let alone determined by biology.

Blended families tend to get a bad rap sometimes from some of the horror stories that can come from second marriages. Not only that, but some people still are stuck in the idea that the only socially acceptable type of family is one where the lineage is clear and concise. Although I can see where these people come from, I don't believe that because there is a lack of shared genetics between all of us, our love is any less strong.

Family is those who will answer a call or text late at night because you need someone to talk to. They're the ones that you end up staying at their house and talking for hours when you meant to make a quick trip in. They are there for you no matter the situation and always believe in you one hundred percent.

Traditional families have a lot of love too, undoubtedly. But please, do not tell me that my family is any less of a family of a family because of its makeup. We have just as much love between us as families with the same bloodline. Blood does not determine the amount of love and affection between all of us. It never will. We will love each other as much as a traditional family. We never look at each other as a mixed family, so please stop treating us as such.

I've said it so many times, but I'll remind you once more. Blood does not determine family, love does-- and I love my family more than life itself.

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