Five things you need to give up

Five things you need to give up

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If you find yourself feeling unhappy or way too stressed out everyday it might be something you are doing that is stopping you. It could be something as little as fears you have learned to live. Here are five things you should give up so you make move on and life a happier life.

1. Failing.


Failing is just a part of living and it does not make you a failure. Failing helps you grow. It is a process to where we are trying to go. By failing we grow a little closer to our goal of succeeding.

2. Pleasing everyone.

If you are keep trying to please everyone you meet you will never truly be happy. You will always find being someone you are not. One of the great parts about growing up is discovering who you are not.

3. Over-thinking.


Studies have shown that over-thinkers tend to have a emotional distress. This will cause you to go through of overthinking and stress.

4. Comparing yourself to others.

If you find yourself comparing yourself to other people you will find yourself hating yourself. Instead of comparing yourself you might want to enjoy yourself because no one is like you.

5. Procrastinating.

Procrastination can be something hard break especially when you find yourself doing it every week. It can lead you to a lot of stressing you can avoid. Try to give yourself time in the day to organize yourself before your day starts.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.
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It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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Practicing Yoga Makes Me Feel Better Almost Instantly


Yoga has also given me lifestyle changes I never expected.

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First, let's talk about what yoga is not. It isn't twisting into some impossible pretzel shape or sitting around chanting "om" for an hour. It doesn't have to be slow and it's not just for women.

One of my favorite instructors likes to say that yoga is just simply breathing, if you've ever just taken a moment to have a few calm breaths then you've done yoga.

attractive fit young man doing yoga on the beach

The start of my sophomore year was rough for me. I struggled with anxiety, especially in social situations. I stopped going out in groups with my friends and I spent the majority of my time in my room being anxious over other stuff.

I wouldn't go to social events or even walk on local trails because my anxiety was so high it kept me from going out and enjoying myself. I was unhappy with myself and how I always felt tired all the time and stressed out.

I started my yoga "journey" in the fall semester of my sophomore year of college just looking for additional exercise and something to get invested in to stay active. Shortly after attending just one and sometimes two classes a week I noticed I was becoming calmer and relieved in my everyday life.

Eventually, I was able to attend class without a friend coming with me and I even branched out to other yoga classes and I started taking early morning ones as well. I felt a huge difference in my mood and my overall energy and I had this motivation to finally get up and get things done, it was like I had control over my anxiety.

After a couple of months of going to regular classes and even practicing a little at home I can finally say that I am happy with myself. I call yoga a journey because it took me out of my comfort zone and helped me push open my boundaries more.

Yoga has also given me lifestyle changes I never expected. I am healthier because not only am I more active but I am striving to eat better which also makes me feel better. I understand myself better, because I took the time to reflect on what I want and what I don't want in my life. I realized there was a good amount of negative energy around me, I took the time to recognize my own negative energy and focus on changing myself.

The best part of yoga? You can practice it anywhere. If going to classes just isn't an option, you can watch Yoga With Adriene on Youtube or even just Google poses you would want to try out. Have hip, back or neck pain? I guarantee there is a yoga sequence or a few moves to loosen out your tension.

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I urge everyone to try out yoga, and if it isn't your thing then you can say you tried but, I truly do believe that yoga is what you make of it.

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