I went on a first date last week and believe it or not, it was a lot of fun. Super nerve-wracking and wow, why did we choose the hottest day of the year for this? But fun nonetheless.
There were a handful of questions that I noticed kept popping up that really helped shape the date and made me feel a lot closer to the person. Maybe there's some in here that you can sprinkle in on your next first date, too.
1. What's your star sign?
Don't underestimate the power of the stars! I'm fine with any sign, but I need to know ahead of time if I'm starting something with a Gemini.
2. What's your personality type?
If I ask you this question and you give me a blank stare in return, I'm not gonna lie, you lose a couple of points. But not many. I'm referring to the Meyers Briggs Personality Test that tells you four of the most important letters in your life.
3. What's your relationship with your parents?
Don't be afraid of the intensity of this question. It's an important thing to know. If I've learned anything from my years in therapy, it's that our parents impact our lives more than we think.
4. What are your dealbreakers?
Might as well get them out in the open from the start and figure out what can be negotiated and what can't be.
5. Do you have any dietary restrictions?
This one matters a lot when it comes to going on dates and even picking up little sweet surprises throughout the relationship. If you're vegan and I'm picking the restaurant, I have to do a little more research ahead of time.
6. Are you religious?
Wanna know what prompted this question on my date? We were on a walk and we passed a dead squirrel. Do we have a squirrel funeral? Do we say a squirrel prayer? Do we continue walking, basking in the nothingness of the squirrel? This is why that question matters.
7. What's your middle name?
Something about middle names always feel a little sacred to me. It's this thing that's hidden but also in plain sight. Knowing it makes you feel like you're in on who that person is just a little bit more.
8. Favorite flower?
I think a person's favorite flower says a lot about them as a person. Are you more of a rose or a sunflower?
9. Is it okay with you that I have an essential oil vape?
... Okay, yeah, this one might be more of an only me thing. But seriously, have you tried these?
10. Will there be a second date?
This may be the most important question of them all. Godspeed.
